(Closed) Intimacy Panic Attack

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sounds like anxiety causing derealization to me. My anxiety used to do that to me but now it’s gone. Try meditation and Vitamin B Complex. Look up derealization to see if that sounds like what’s happening to you. 

It’s nothing serious by the way (if that’s what it is). The signals in your brain are backing up and you’re missing things and sensations. Scary at first but when you can learn to control it. 

If that’s not what’s going on here, I’d still say meditation could help you. It’s a great way to get “in the moment” and stay there. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@AnonBeeLee:  Does he know that you had this addiction at one point? what if you try going for therapy again? maybe that could help you in some way. .. GL and sorry you are going through this

Post # 8
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t really know what triggers it. For me it was a response to a very tight (close) surrounding. Sometimes in the shower I couldn’t let my so kiss or hug me because it would occur. I felt it in missionary too. I am really happy I got over it because it was really scary! 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m so sorry that you’re having so much difficulty with intimacy and it definitely does not always need to be this way. I know you are concerned that you cannot afford therapy right now, but I would encourage you to see if there are any community mental health agencies in your area that provide free or low-cost counseling services to residents of your city. Many therapists also proving counseling on a sliding scale that is very affordable. Therapy can be very helpful in exploring the causes for anxiety surrounding intimacy and you can explore possible causes, such as trauma that occurred during childhood or when you were very sexually active.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t have any great advice for you, but it seems he may be triggering something. For the time being, just tell him not to hold you that way Tell him you don’t know what is really going on but that you need some space in the bedroom.

The other day I was laying down on the couch and to be funny, my Darling Husband got on top of my and started kissing my neck (again, he was joking around, I started laughing). When I said “get off me, you fool!” (again, we were joking around), he said “no, now just to spite you, I’m not gonna leave you alone”. Now, at this time I was still laughing, but after he said that for some reason, it just triggered me. I told him (still laughing but now I’m feeling anxious) “no seriously, get off”. By the time I finished my sentence, my cries of laughter had turned into real tears. He got off me and sat at the opposite end of the couch. I was so confused and embarassed. WHen he asked what was wrong I told him I needed to be alone, and left the room to go take a long hot shower (my way to decompress from stressful situations). Afterward I told him I didn’t know what happened, and I didn’t know why I reacted that way. I know he was being silly, I know he would never hurt me. He told me (he has a BA in psych) that it seemed like he triggered something in me. I completely agreed with him, I just don’t know WHAT it was that he triggered. During our conversation, he told me he sees this a lot at his work (a mental health facility) with clients and it is somethimes the smallest, seemingly insignificant things that will do it. I still do not know the situation that he triggered.

Wow, OP I completely apoloqize for writing a book on your post. I just want you to know that there are others out there who get triggers and are confused about them. I go to a counselor now, but this is something I choose not to speak to her about. I really would rather leave it be and hope it doesn’t happen again. If you would like to persue counseling but cannot afford it, I suggest you start making phone calls. In my area at least, there are programs you are able to reach out to receive help without going through your health insurance or if you have no insurance at all. If that is unavailable to you, I suggest you contact your insurance company or consider switching insurance companies altogether. Good luck, OP.

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