Post # 1
Ok, so I have a rather personal question to ask the hive.My Fiance and I have been dating for 3 years and are intimate.However, I am frustrated with our sex life and do not know what to do.The problem is that he never goes slowly and most definitely cannot climax while going slow.I am all for having rough and fun times, however, not all the time.Sometimes I just want to take it slow and gentle, however even if it starts that way he almost always ends it roughly.I don’t know what to do, I’ve tried to express to him my desire to go slower and make a more of a connection, but it hasn’t helped.I guess I’m just left wanting to feel loved in a more gentler way when intimate.Any suggestions?Sorry if it’s Too Much Information, I’m just feeling a little blue after seeing him this weekend.
Post # 3
I think you might need to really show him what you need – either by requesting that you take control, or by tying him down and forcing him to stay put while you do everything. Show him what you need, and I am sure if he lets go he will be able to climax, if you do that a few times, then he will really understand what you need, and maybe he will be able to do that for you.
Post # 4
I think you need to take control. Use positions where you are in charge of the pace and penetration, like girl on top or reverse cowgirl. If he starts going to fast, lift yourself up so that he is barely inside you. I think that he just gets caught up in the moment like most guys and probably doesn’t realize that you don’t like it as much to go quickly all the time.
Post # 5
I agree with both previous posters. Sometimes guys get stuck in what they know, and kind of need to learn a new way, or relearn what they know. Take control, and make him stick to the pace YOU want.