(Closed) Intimacy/Cohabitation

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That sounds exactly like my boyfriend and I. We moved in together at the end of March this year, but we’ve been together since July 2009. And honestly, the “intimacy” didn’t change when we moved in together. There are lots of challenges that came with being responsible for a new apartment, and even though I think he thought it would increase significantly, he soon realized that that was not the case. Haha. It really depends on the couple, though.


I hope that was helpful and not too rambly!

Post # 4
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Everyone is different. Darling Husband and I have always been very active and it has stayed that way through moving in together, engagement, and now 9 months of marriage. However, I think that every couple is very different. I know that some of my friends had a decrease when moving in together and even more had a decrease when they had children.  I think if you focus on it and make it a priority it won’t change (if that’s what you want, I assumed, but perhaps you hate it and are hoping for a decrease LOL)

Post # 6
1527 posts
Bumble bee

It didn’t change for us once we moved intogether. Once we get married, I don’t see it changing either. I think the thing that changes it the most is when you have kids. The only thing that will change your sex life is a conscious decision to change it. Even if you’re in the mood less, if you just start then you’ll usually get in the mood and get in the mood more often. It’s all up to you guys 🙂 Just communicate your needs and how often you like to do the dance with no pants, and make it happen. 

Post # 7
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

it changed for us. Once Fiance bought a house every time I came over to visit we did it. Since I still lived at home, it was impossible to have a lone time. So we always had to ‘squeeze’ it in. Now, it has decreased. I think it’s becasue we see each other everyday and it’s more natural to let it take place on it’s own..not forcing it in because we’re finally alone. BUt like PPs have said, everyone is different

Post # 8
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

We moved in together nearly two years ago now and haven’t spent a night apart since Christmas 2009.

When we first got together we’d engage in intercourse every time we slept together (a couple of times a week). We probably have sex as often now but we’re always intimate (except possibly in the dead of winter when it’s just too cold).

Having our own house freed us up to wander around naked and be intimate wherever we feel like it, which is rather nice.

Post # 9
485 posts
Helper bee

We’ve been living together for over a year now, and we are still as active as ever. Our sex life has even improved since moving in together, as now we don’t have worry about housemates hearing us.

Post # 10
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our sex life improved, although it was always good. We feel more comfortable being in our own place and not worrying about others hearing. It also became easier to mix things up, such as doing it in different spots in the house since it is our place.

Post # 11
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

It didnt change to much for Fiance and I. Although its a little harder now because we have completely oppisite work schedules, but I think that also helps because we make more of an effort to make time for eachother and have some playtime 🙂

Post # 12
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would say yes, it changes.  The feeling of anticipation/excitement isn’t there because you see each other every night.  At least that’s been our experience.  We used to be just like you 🙂

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