(Closed) Intimate ceremony (8 guests), second wedding. No registry, right?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@luvmesumhim:  I think so.  I wouldn’t feel comfortable registering if I were in your position.

Post # 5
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@luvmesumhim:  we’re getting married abroad with a guest list of about 30. We won’t be having a register. at the end of the day, it’s up to you, but I’m sure there will some etiquette rule someone will tell us! (I’m not a huge fan of all these rules)

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t register in your position. It seems a little excessive to register for only 8 gift givers. If I was one of your guest, I would probably gift you cash unless there’s something I find that I know you both would LOVE.

Post # 7
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are correct. A registry would not be appropriate for such a small wedding.

Post # 8
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’d also say I wouldn’t register in your scenario. If people want to get you a gift, they’ll pick out something themselves or more likely give you money. And with such an intimate event, I don’t think you have to worry that not registering sends the wrong message. 🙂

Post # 9
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I didn’t register (3rd times a charm for both of us) and we only got a gift (money) from my mom, the rest of the families didn’t even give us a card.

Post # 12
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@luvmesumhim:  We eloped and I registered only after pressure from my Mother-In-Law.  She said her sister (and other family) was going to want to get us a gift, so I better make a registry or else it may not be something I like or can exchange out.  I hemmed and hawed for a long time and finally did a little one.  The said aunt just got us a gift card!  However, there were other people that found it and got us gifts.  They searched for it on their own without word of mouth.


However, we did have a Destination Wedding planned with Save-The-Date Cards sent out and we cancelled it all due to father’s terminal illness.  We did get lots of people asking where we registered after the cancellation. 

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