Thank you all SO much for your responses I have read every one of them!
@parasol- Thank you for your advice and reassurance. Our idea started out just like yours, as very small ceremony and then the reception on a different day but my soon to be mom-in-law (who is close to me like my own mom) and my mom both wanted it the same day. So we compromised, I know it’s our day buit it’s also a marriage and joining of two families so I feel the parents should have some input too. Also, thank you for your wording advice, it makes me feel better seeing examples of a reception only invite done.
@samanthajkellie – Thank you for the positive feedback!
@KimmySumShuga- Thank you for your kind words! Sometimes you can forget your dream in the wedding planning process. I’m trying not to do that, I think I was trying to please everyone and that’s just impossible. Ultimately though, at the end of the day, when we’re married, I’ll be the happiest girl!!
@ArwenBride- I’ve been practicing my calligraphy so I can handwrite the addresses on our invites, everyone says it’s a lot of work, but a few extra hours is worth it to me for personal touches! I want to show them they are special and that I’m happy they could be there to celebrate us! Thank you for your advice on handeling guests who won’t be there at the ceremony!
@kissme_cait- Our ceremony will be the same feel, small and intimate. I did not think about inserting a small card in our invites though, I will definitely consider doing that! 🙂 Thank you for your advice!!
@littlelucygoose- I agree, talking with family and friends it’s a lot more common to do this where I live as well! If someone REALLY wants to come to our ceremony and were confused about the invite, I would not mind. It’s a tight space but if they don’t mind standing, I don’t mind either. As long as I’m married to my love, that’s all that matters! 🙂 I also LOVE your advice on wording “The couple will exchange vows in a private ceremony” sounds perfect!
@futuremrsfitz18– The reason why we’re having a small ceremony and larger reception isn’t about the money AT ALL. We actually wanted to go to the courthouse and be married but some family members had disagreements with that idea. I understood where they were coming from too, so we compromised but still wanted to do a small ceremony. We were always going to do a larger reception for some of the traditions such as father/daughter dance. My dad has congestive heart failure so I wanted to have that memory of him and I. We’ve compromised a lot so far, I just didn’t want to compromise our ceremony too.
@vickyness- We haven’t gotten any issues from other family members yet, but I assume we will at some point. The people that matter know us, and know where we’re coming from and understand. 🙂
@mtnhoney- We’re trying to come up with something that is clear, but i think no matter how clear we are there will be some confusion. Facebook, friends, and family have helped keep people up to date on what’s going on with the wedding planning 🙂
@julie12- We have some friends coming but they are in the wedding party. One of my fiance’s close friends will be having twins around then so the likelyhood they’ll be there isn’t much. I’m close to my aunt and my cousin will be marrying us so I had to invite their family and a few others but all in all it’s about 30 of our closest friends and family. 🙂 Thanks for your input!