Post # 1
Our ceremony site is about 12 miles from our reception site (25 minutes in LA traffic on a beautiful Saturday evening). Our ceremony is going to be short, sweet, and to the point. No singing, no readers, no sand, etc. Will our guests be mad that they drove so far to come to a 10 minute ceremony then have to drive all the way to the reception site? Most guests are local and the ones staying at the hotel will be close to the reception site.
Our other option is to only have immediate family and a handful of close friends at the ceremony and have the rest of the guests (100+) just come for the reception.
All thoughts appreciated!!
Post # 3
i think that it is great that you are trying to be considerate to your guests, but the people that care enough to come to your wedding day want to see you get married! maybe you can casually spread the word that you are ok with people not going to both (if you ahve a wedding website, you can make a note of that0 but i don’t think you should not invite people on the assumtion that they wouldn’t care enough to make the trip to witness your vows!
Post # 5
Do what you think is better it is your day and if you feel like it will be an inconvenience for your guest just invite your immediate family to the ceremony. The reception (which ive seen a couple times) people show up to that and not the ceremony.
Post # 6
People do get offended if they are only invited to the reception because they feel they are not good enough to witness the most important part of the day which is the ceremony. Really, it is rude to have a limited ceremony, even though many people claim otherwise.
Post # 7
I agree that people will feel somewhat slighted if they are not invited to the ceremony, and only to the rehearsal. So maybe it’s a little inconvenient but hey, it’s a WEDDING and people are willing to put up with a certain amount of inconvenience, right? Very important day! 🙂 And I think people DO want to see the actual ceremony. If they really don’t want to, then I guess they can just skip the ceremony and show up at the reception. I don’t think you should worry about it
Post # 8
I don’t think 12 miles is that far to drive for anybody. I think you should invite everybody to both the ceremony and reception and let them decide if they want to attend both or just the reception.
Post # 9
i think people usually don’t like long ceremonies, and they’d much rather see you get married!
Post # 10
For someone that meant a huge deal to me.. I wouldnt mind being stuck in LA traffic for a 5-15 min ceremony.
Post # 11
We’re doing a private ceremony (though I don’t think its rude like a previous poster stated) with a bigger reception and it has really upset some people. In our case we really wanted to elope but knew it would upset our families so we’re including parents siblings and grandparents in our ceremony and then celebrating with the rest of the family at a still fairly small reception. Most people expect to be invited to the ceremony and the reception when invited to a wedding so I don’t think anyone would be put out by having to drive the extra 12 miles. Just my 2 cents tho..