Post # 1
We just found out yesterday that the officiant we had picked (family friend) for our September wedding can no longer marry us on our wedding day! We’re getting married in a local barn dedicated to weddings, and neither of us officially belong to a church. His family hasn’t been to a church in almost 6 years, and my family has been even longer than that. We don’t know anyone else that has been ordained (or wants to be), and we don’t even know where to start looking! We’re tossing around the idea of getting married in the courthouse with just our close family or having out family friend marry us before the actual wedding date, and then having a “fake” ceremony and a big reception. I would be fine with just the small ceremony and the reception, but I have always dreamed of wearing a white dress (which I have already purchased) and my dad walking me down the alter. I know if we do a ceremony in the courthouse, there’s not enough room for both of our families or an aisle for my father and I to walk down.
I guess I’m just looking for any advice I can get here!
Also, has anyone one else had a similar situation? What did you do? How would we even go about a second ceremony?
Post # 3
@ashizzzle: can’t you get a non-religious officent?
Post # 4
@Atalanta: That’s what we’re looking for, but we can’t really find any.
Post # 5
@ashizzzle: In the military world this is done allllll the time. Like, just about everyone I know has done this, including me! We had a courthouse wedding May of 2012, big wedding, ceremony, 200+ guest list, the whole shabang happening this fall. No one even batted an eye. I you’re afraid that people will think you’re stupid or won’t come, you’re wrong. Everyone is just as excited for the October wedding.
Post # 6
Can’t you just have a friend get ordained online? It seems a lot easier than having two weddings.
Post # 7
This area is a relatively large metro area. If I look up county judges online there is link to “judges that perform marriages” Then there is a comment area. Some of they perform them 7 days a week, some say courthouse only 9-4:30 by appt, some say they take credit cards, some speak spanish, ukranian, or french.
So, I’d give your courthouse a call and see if any judges perform ceremonies outside of the courthouse.
I’m not from MN or NE but it appears many government/local judicial webistes have similar info.