Post # 1
My fiance are having a very small, intimate gathering on our wedding day and I was wondering how some of you other brides have done it / are planning to do it.
So far, this is our idea of what our day will be like…
Wake up. Have brunch with FH and our closest friends. Get ready with my mom, my sister and my best friend. I want their to be games – scrabble, lawn bowling…we won’t be having a dance floor. Pretty much… I want everyone to have a day outside, in the country, without any worries. I want it to be a day that makes people think about who is in their life, who they love, and be so grateful that they have the love they do.
Now, some stuff I’m having trouble with…
-It feels too intimate to have a stranger marry us… but from what I’ve found it’s not legally binding unless you go to city hall or have an officiant… any ideas?
-Decorating and set up… who will be responsible?
-Catering… can you get them to deliver the food before hand? We want a buffet, so people can serve them selves.
Pretty much we want to keep it as intimate as possible and not have strangers in our day. Does anyone have any experience or ideas on how to achieve this?
Post # 3
I can’t speak to the catering, although it sounds like it would be possible, depending on what type of buffet you want. Typically most buffets involve some sort of work during (restocking dishes of food, plates), but that might depend on how many guests you have.
For the officiant – you can have someone who is not licensed do the ceremony, but you would have to go to city hall after or before to legally get married. We’re considering this, and I have no problem with it as I see when we say our vows as the most meaningful part, not whether we are legally married the day before or 2 days after.
Setting up would fall to your friends, family, and yourself if you don’t want strangers involved.
Post # 4
@liz.tessier: To answer your question about the someone officiating your wedding, I believe you can contact service ontario ( where you will need to get your marriage license) and ask them about the process of someone become an officiant , if you really want someone close to you to officiate your wedding.
For your decor set up and take down , it will all depend on the location of your ceremony/reception, my aunt is doing that for me, but she will be coordinating certain things with my venue and my decor is pretty minimal
Good luck for the rest
Post # 5
@liz.tessier: in regards to the officiant – I was told by our officiant that you can have a friend do “a reading” i.e. they can say anything they want and the officiant can stay out of the way and come in at the end to do the legally binding bit. It seemed like a good compromise.
Post # 6
@liz.tessier: if you are open to getting married in Quebec anyone can act as an officiant. but as far as I know each individual can only perform a ceremony once. Be warned, if you get married in Quebec and want to change your name you will not be able to.
Post # 7
We did the set up the night before and a bit the morning of. We hired a chef to come and cook for us. No catering company! Best choice ever!
We got legally married before then and had a friend perform the ceremony the day of the wedding : )
Post # 8
We’re having 20 people, so I think if we prepare some light foods before hand, we will be okay. Pasta salads, potatoe salad, etc. We also thought to have a BBQ because we just found out that the chalet we want to rent out has one!
Post # 9
Did you do this / have more information? Is it a hard process. We are wanting to get married at a chalet in tremblant, which is located in Quebec.
Post # 10
@liz.tessier: I did not do this – I live right on the border in Ottawa so it is fairly well known here. We are dealing with All Seasons Weddings officiants and they would be the best to ask as they know all the legalities: