Post # 1
Oh boy, I can already tell I’m going to be at my wit’s end with this ‘easy’ wedding LOL. Originally, we had discussed having less than 30 people (including my 17 person family) total, at our backyard BBQ wedding. The problem with this was it would be excluding 2 of my best friends, who I figured I’d ‘sneak’ in since they are practically family. Then my mother brought up my brother and sister in law (the younger sister of my deceased husband and her husband) who I have remained extremely close with. But if I invite them, I have to invite the other siblings (5 more siblings, with 5 more spouses) and the parents (each remarried) and then my head started to hurt, LOL. SO….it looks like my ‘small’ wedding of 24 people has just about doubled. Or, I can invite none of them, and be sad that my sister and brother in law, who I have always been extremely close with (we go out to dinner once a month, we’ve taken trips together, last year they spent father’s day with my father instead of theirs, very close). LOL, oh what a difference a day makes!!
Post # 3
Story of my life. Nine months ago, I thought I was going to have a simple ceremony in San Francisco city hall with 15 people… Now I’m having a wedding in a vineyard and inviting 95 people. My wedding’s going to be awesome, but it’s taking a lot more money and a lot more planning!
Post # 4
Haha, thankfully with the backyard BBQ the food isn’t going to be too bad, but that’s twice as many tables and chairs to rent. Twice the centerpieces, twice the favors….oy. And this isn’t even the ‘big’ celebration we’re planning for next year!! LOL, craziness.
Post # 5
I would go ahead (assuming it’s in the budget) and invite the people you love. You may look back and regret not having them to share your special day. And it’s still a small wedding, if the huge wedding is not something you’re going for. I hope it all works out.
Post # 6
I don’t know what to tell you, because the father you spent fathers day with might feel like he should be there, too.
If I got this correctly, you have remained very close to your deceased husband’s family. That’s good, but the tricky thing is not inviting them might make them feel like since you’re getting married, you’re going to ditch them for the new family. Inviting them could make the new family uncomfortable. I doubt that, but I believe the deceased husband’s family might have hurt feelings like that, even though they might not ever vocalize them to you, because they’re too sweet to want to put a damper on your wedding with those kinds of thoughts. But it’s a natural feeling for them to have, even if they don’t voice it.
So just because you have a special situation like that, I’d up the guest count to include those people. I’d talk to each of them as see if they are okay with seeing you marry another man, too. Because maybe they don’t want to see that, because it will be sad to remember your husband who died while they watch you remarry. So that’s a touchy situation, in my guess. Maybe I’m wrong, but I’d encourage you to include them if possible.