(Closed) ‘Intimate’ wedding growing….YIKES!!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Story of my life.  Nine months ago, I thought I was going to have a simple ceremony in San Francisco city hall with 15 people… Now I’m having a wedding in a vineyard and inviting 95 people.  My wedding’s going to be awesome, but it’s taking a lot more money and a lot more planning!

Post # 5
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would go ahead (assuming it’s in the budget) and invite the people you love.  You may look back and regret not having them to share your special day.  And it’s still a small wedding, if the huge wedding is not something you’re going for.  I hope it all works out.

Post # 6
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t know what to tell you, because the father you spent fathers day with might feel like he should be there, too.


If I got this correctly, you have remained very close to your deceased husband’s family. That’s good, but the tricky thing is not inviting them might make them feel like since you’re getting married, you’re going to ditch them for the new family. Inviting them could make the new family uncomfortable. I doubt that, but I believe the deceased husband’s family might have hurt feelings like that, even though they might not ever vocalize them to you, because they’re too sweet to want to put a damper on your wedding with those kinds of thoughts. But it’s a natural feeling for them to have, even if they don’t voice it.

So just because you have a special situation like that, I’d up the guest count to include those people. I’d talk to each of them as see if they are okay with seeing you marry another man, too. Because maybe they don’t want to see that, because it will be sad to remember your husband who died while they watch you remarry. So that’s a touchy situation, in my guess. Maybe I’m wrong, but I’d encourage you to include them if possible.

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