(Closed) Intimate wedding nightmare

posted 6 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

To me, this is no different from the people who elope or have a Destination Wedding and then have a reception a few months afterwards. You do you. It’s incredibly generous to pay for food, drinks, and entertainment for hundreds of people, and if they can’t appreciate that, then they can simply RSVP no and eff off.

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I agree that it’s a regional thing. Here (in Utah) with the high population of LDS people, it’s common to get married in the Temple with very few people in attendance and then have a large reception after. I wouldn’t even think twice about getting only a reception invite, in fact we have 2 coming up in the next few weeks. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’d decline the invitation for reception only if I knew there was going to be a non-private ceremony. Some friends of ours are having a private ceremony next month followed by a celebratory party a few weeks later. We’re fine with that and will happily attend the celebration. But if I knew that half of the guest list was invited to the ceremony but we weren’t, I’d feel excluded. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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mrsrizz:  Do what makes you comfortable. I am doing immediate family only, my 2 best friends and a couple that is like family to us. I’m sure some people are not happy about it, but I don’t like being the center of attention and I didn’t want to dread my wedding day. It’s okay to want an intimate ceremony. Personally ceremony’s bore me to death, I’d rather go to the party and celebrate with the couple!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

Over here we do tiered weddings like that, but its a difference of like a 100. The ceremony would be family and close close friends only, while the reception is extended to non-families, co-workers, associations and invites of parents and the other sort.  Ceremony is small by tradition, usually under 50 and reception is atleast 300, so people don’t take offense to it. I wouldn’t mind going to the reception only if I wasn’t close (there’s only so many ceremonies you can go to without skipping work). If you weren’t close to the bride and groom, would you REALLY demand an invite from them when you’re an unwanted guest that was invited to save hurt feelings?

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