(Closed) Intro and questions =)

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Say nothing but pray much =D

Honestly only God can draw him. Everytime one of my gal pals tries to bring her man into a closer relationship with the Lord it always pushes him further away and puts a strain on their relationship. Itotally understand where you are coming from though! Iwould have a hard time being in a relationship with someone who didnt share my level of commitment to the Lord. My best advice is for you to be faithful and live it out in front of him. Always ask him to come but no arm twisting and realize he may never get any closer to God. In fact he may drift further away, can you live with that?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

LOL I missed that first question! Many priest I know wont do long distance counseling. Will yours? I know it is doable but very awkward. Will you not be visiting back and fort and could make it work somehow? This was the reason one of my friends ended up not being married by her priest ๐Ÿ™ He refused to do it long distance and it wasn’t workable for them to do it in person. They had to use someone else. She bawled for weeks so I hope it works out for you!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My dad used to be like that, but now he’s the most devoted Catholic in our family.  I think for him, having kids and helping them build a relationship with God really helped him to re-evaluate his own relationship with God.  Keep praying, going to church, ask him to go with you because you like going to church with him, and let him come to it on his own time.

For the first question, congratulations on graduating!  I think arranging the pre-marriage stuff as visits is probably the way to go.  Are you getting married up here or down there?  The priest down there is the one you should probably talk to first if you’re getting married in Louisianna, because the priest who marries you is going to need to sign off on everything.  I’ve never met a priest who is willing to do a long-distance meeting, and if the retreat is required, you have to go to it…however, certain things can be waived with I think it’s the bishop’s approval.  

Good luck!

Post # 9
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

One of the things you’re likely to have as part of marriage preparation is the FOCCUS inventory. A lot of people call it a “test,” but it’s not really a test (you don’t “pass” or “fail” it), it’s an inventory – a series of concrete questions used to measure something more abstract.

The FOCCUS inventory is a bunch of statements about different areas of married life (faith and spirituality, but also finances, family relationships, sex and intimacy, your individual personalities, behaviors around drugs and alcohol, plans about children, etc.), and they are really good for sparking conversations about things you might not have discussed yet, or things that are difficult to discuss. Maybe when you get to the point of going through FOCCUS, that can help you open up a conversation about the role of faith in your life/lives and what you would like that to look like in the future.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hi ๐Ÿ™‚  Im 22 years old as well and my Fiance just turned 23. I was born and raised Catholic and love my faith as well, my Fiance was baptist but never really went to church. However this year I got him going to church with me every sunday. This christmas will make it a full year of him regularly attending Catholic mass ๐Ÿ™‚ What you need to do is pray pray pray! Take him to church regularly with you and pray that God will open his heart and mind so that He can rush in into it. thats what I do and God listens ๐Ÿ˜‰ it has been thankfuly working. also look into and see if there is an RCIA class going on at your church. It might be called something diffrent where you live? its a class that adults go to to became Catholic but its also just to ask any questions you have about God and the church and what we as Catholics believe. (You dont HAVE to have intentions to become catholic to go to the class) My FI and I attend this class every sunday. he is on his way to becoming Catholic now. Im so excited! This Easter he will come into the church ๐Ÿ™‚ also you should go threw precana classes before you are married, maybe those will help as well. Good luck with your man!!! I wish you two the best. Just remember God can do all, pray bout it. The Rosary is very powerful too! Get him to pray with you if you can

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@pinkiePromise: Yes, we’re getting married in my hometown and we are doing the marriage prep where my fiance and I currently live, which is a 9 hour drive from my hometown.  We do the prep here and they send the paperwork to our current diocese, which sends it to the diocese in which we will actually be getting married.  Keep in mind that I am a member of the church where we are doing our prep and the one in my hometown was my family church growing up, so I had connections to both.

I’m not sure how it works if you and your fiance live in different locations, though.

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