- 6 years ago
Wow, I am happy to see that there are others in the same situation! I just sort of stumbled upon the bee and lurked a little bit, and was really really happy to see this section of the board!
I have been with my SO for a little over 2 years, LD the whole time. We are a 7 hour drive apart. In spite of it, we have managed quite well, seeing each other about every third weekend, and taking a week long vacation together each fall. I’m sure you all know the drill! But I don’t know any one else in real life that is doing this and people around me don’t understand, and even act like “hey, if you meet someone local, then you won’t have to do LDR any more.” UGH as if I am doing it for lack of any other option. I am sure some of you all have heard that same thing too! Grr.
Any how, I got on this board because SO and I have been talking of engagement, marriage in the future quite a bit. Problem is we are not going to have any way to be together for another two years, due to jobs/family stuff.
So the whole engagement discussions have evolved over time. We have had the ring discussion, what I like, and that is progressing along. Last weekend, we were camping (our favorite all time thing) and he asked me – seriously this time, not discussion like, if that makes sense – “will you marry me?” I said yes.
But we have decided to let it be our little secret til he gets the ring (I’m not sure of the timeline on that yet). Meanwhile, I am BURSTING to tell someone, anyone about it! He is too, but we are torturing ourselves instead, lol. Not sure why – maybe because we don’t want the questions about when’s the wedding, blah blah blah. People don’t understand our relationship in the first place and for us to say, “well in two years, we will get to that” Better to wait til the ring is there and we can say we are having a long engagement I guess!
Does anyone else have a similar such story? I’m looking to commiserate with girls in similar situation! It’s hard!!! I HAD to register because I just HAD to announce SOMEWHERE to SOMEONE in this world that I am going to marry the guy I am madly in love with 🙂 That feels much better now.
Thanks for letting me get that out! I am going to lurk about and learn more now.