(Closed) Intro + How do you calm yourself down?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

first, welcome to the hive! you’ll like it around these parts.

second, advice. hmm, i just try to not think about it so much. we’re in an ldr as well so whenever i get ready for a visit, i actually have to convince family and friends to not expect anything, which actually helps me to calm down. i also know that nothing will happen for us until we’re in the same city so that’s managed to help distract me a bit from the heavily anticipated and impending marriage-dom.

you can do what i do and repeat, “not this visit” over and over again. it helps so i can just enjoy the visit for what it is and not worry about being disappointed.

but enjoy your visit!

Post # 4
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i come on the board to vent lol!!  just relax and enjoy your time with your honey.  even if it’s not the time for your proposal, it is the time for you to enjoy your relationship and spend time together when it’s just to the two of you being like you have always been up to this point looking forward to the future.

Post # 6
815 posts
Busy bee

Welcome!  I am in a LDR too, and I will be going to visit him for 10 days starting this weekend!  I wish I had a month, that would be amazing.  Anyway, I was really nervous to commit to making this trip.  Not because I don’t want to spend as much time as possible but because I was scared to be on the one-woman-waiting-coaster the whole time.  The last thing I want is to go down there and be sweet and loving one day and turn around and bite his head off the next, which I’ve been known to do since I’ve had engagement brain.  I told myself that it’s not going to happen on this trip, and it won’t.  There have been plenty of times that it could have happened and it didn’t, this will be the same.  I can’t plan the proposal, and I don’t want to, so I am going to make myself forget about it.  That being said, he knows not to talk about our future at all–don’t bring it up, because then I have license to talk about it.  Hopefully that will work, and hopefully it will happen very very soon for you!

Post # 7
990 posts
Busy bee

Welcome welcome! How exciting that you get a month with him – my boy and I are only an hour away from eachother and sometimes we don’t see eachother for that amount of time just because our crappy schedules! I would just be sure to tell yourself beforehand “not right now.” You’ll know when it’s right … I’m sure of it!

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