- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My husband and I are thinking about getting a third cat, but we both want to make sure it’s the right decision before going any further. We have two adult cats now – the first one, Pickles, is a five year old female “gamma” cat: she just wants to be left alone by the other cat, for the most part. Jack is the alpha cat for sure – he’s a four year old male who came into the house at four months old. Pickles hated him on sight – the folks at the shelter told us to just give it time after introducing them properly. We did the whole “keep them separate and introduce slowly” thing and they eventually became civil towards each other. Sometimes they snuggle, but mostly Jack tries to play-fight with Pickles, Pickles is like “fuck off” and swats him for real, and then he gets mad and attacks her. Sometimes he will also attack her unprovoked – he’ll just start chasing her around and then jump on her. It’s been four years now, and while we were hoping Jack’s energy level would calm down once he got older, so far it hasn’t happened.
We were thinking that adding another cat might make things better, at least in terms of giving Jack someone to play with and hopefully taking some of the heat off Pickles. We would make sure we were getting a cat with a playful, easygoing “beta” personality. But I’m also scared that adding a third personality might make an already tenuous situation even worse. Also, we live in a fairly large one bedroom apartment, so while we can easily isolate the newcomer for a few weeks, we don’t have a ton of “territory” to divide. So – cat experts, what do you think? Is a third cat a good idea or not so much?