Post # 1
Hi Everyone! I signed up here a few weeks ago, but I’ve been reading more than posting, so I wanted to kinda introduce myself… So I’m 26 and my SO is 29. We have been together for almost 3 years and living together for almost 2.5. I don’t know if I’m “officially” waiting as we have decided a long time ago that our engagement would be a complete surprise. That’s the way we both want it. I actually felt this way even when i was younger and before I met him. Anyway, he HAS asked me to check my ring size once when we were browsing a store and he HAS said he definitely wants to talk to my dad before proposing (he doesn’t know about my mom, sisters, and best friends because he thinks they will tell me). He has also said many other things that I can’t think of right now, but I still havne’t expected it because he has always said he wants to wait until he is completely stable, financially and job wise so he feels he can support a family. (*side note… we are recently getting more and more financially stable and both now have good full time jobs). He has been starting to sound a little more sure of marriage as of the summer, but still, he has never, ever mentioned looking at rings… until yesterday.
It was so funny. he was asking me something about running shoes and I just heard the word “cusion.” I said “what?! are you talking about engagement rings?” lol. he laughed and clarified himself then stayed quiet for a few seconds following with “can i tell you something… I was actually looking at rings online the other day.” In my head I was like “What??? omg omg!” Anyway, he continues with “there are so many types. i don’t even know where to start.” Now, i know we have decided he would do this on his own, but i started asking a bunch of questions like “what kinds did you like?” and “do you still want to look on your own or do you want my help? (since he seemed overwhelmed by how many designs there are).” THEN he seemed a bit overwhelmed with my questions. lol. He said, “okay babe you are bombarding me with questions,” and I said, “sorry it’s just you’ve never mentioned this before and I wanted to see if you wanted help.” He said “nah i still want to do it on my own. don’t worry babe. be patient. it’ll happen.” *sigh* okay. Anyway, i don’t see it happening for a while, but at least I know he is now starting to think more seriously about it, such as looking at rings.
p.s. it’s been fun reading everyones posts and comments. I can definitely relate to some things 🙂
Post # 3
I was waiting once too, I can relate.
Post # 4
Welcome to the Hive! what an exciting time for you right now!
Maybe send him 1-2 pics of rings you really like, just to give him some starting ground?
Post # 5
Thanks girls! I appreciate the welcomes and advice 🙂
Post # 6
I definitely agree with sending him a few pics of rings you like as an example.
have fun waiting! It’s nerve wracking, that I can tell you! 😉
Post # 7
thanks! i’ll start looking. The few times i’ve looked at rings, i just thought they were ALL pretty! lol. i never really asked myself what i wanted. maybe i should start 🙂
Post # 8
Hiya and welcome! I would definitely take it easy on your SO with the details, sounds like he really wants info, but there is enough out there to make his head spin! Think of it like this- you guys are desiding on what car to get, and he starts rattling off all this info that is just greek to you about makes an models… ” this one has a great MPG, but this one is more fun, or this one has heated seats, but this one has heated seats and a super charged engine..”
Mean while your like,” I donno, get one with 4 wheels and a motor”. Okay the example could have been much better, but I dont know anything about cars ^.^
With my guy I went over the top hinting (flat out pointing out) what I like, but it was so much info it was just in one ear, out the other. Finally I told him when he was ready to contact my close friend who has lots of ring ideas of what I like (whom he’s buddies with too, but you know, MY BFF).
If you think your guy would be okay talking about this stuff with your BFF (or close sister or something) you could try what I did, takes the pressure off a little, and he may like to get that second oppion from someone who knows you on that girly level.
It sounds like things are headed in the right direction, so welcome to the waiting madness!
Post # 9
@juneebee: Welcome to the waiting boards, were all the same boat so we feel your pain!
Post # 10
Thanks, JessieK and spaneshal.
JessieK, Thanks for that advice. I think my friends know me pretty well, but I don’t know if he would talk to them because they have told me about xmas and birthday presents before. lol. but just in case, i’ll make sure they know what i like. 🙂
Post # 11
I found it really helpful to go ring shopping with my SO even though he’s getting the ring made and it will be a total surprise. It really helps to see things on your finger. He will start to see what designs you keep wanting to try on, and it will help him visualize what he likes on you. Sometimes you even get helpful salespeople who can point out pros or cons and help narrow things down.
Post # 12
I can relate! My SO and I spoke about wedding plans and he even asked me to e-mail him the picture of my favorite engagement ring and get my ring size. Then yesterday I asked him about our plans to get married one day and I kind of pressured him to at least tell me if he had a good idea of when he’s planning on proposing/getting married and he said he has the time frame for both! This whole waiting thing is making me so anxious. At least I know its coming sooner than later. He says he doesn’t want to say anything because then it won’t be a surprise.
Post # 13
Hi juneebee, welcome to the hive – i’m fairly new too and have found the ladies on here so supporting and a real breath of fresh air – i hope you do too! x