- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I’m new to the site and wanted to introduce myself. I’ve looked at a couple of other sites and you guys seem *way* more normal than a lot of the mean-and-scary-wedding-police types that I saw there.
I don’t need advice or anything, just wanted to make myself known. I’m with my SO a little over a year, we live together. We’ve talked about marriage, and we know that’s where we’re headed. He’s five years older than me (25/30). I’m Irish, born and raised here in Dublin, and he’s foreign – came here for college and hasn’t left. His cultural background is different, but I’ve just met his family (seriously long week, wow!) and they’re really lovely, if a little less chatty than my (extremely friendly and outgoing) family. The cultural differences seem to be cosmetic, if that makes sense…
Anyway, he proposed this morning in bed (I’d be more excited but he does that all the time and didn’t have a ring ). That’s kind of my question I guess – I don’t think you need a ring to be engaged, but did any other bees have these kind of mock-proposals or casual proposals before the real thing? And was it different when he proposed for real? (It’s funny saying for real, because I consider us a done deal, as does he, but even though he’s asked and I’ve accepted several times and we’ve looked at rings, I don’t consider us engaged…)
I’m not in a hurry to get engaged – as I say we’re only a year together and I’m finishing a PhD this summer (procrastination, thy name is internet…) so I also don’t really feel like I’m “waiting” as such – plus I know we’re both committed already anyway, but I wondered if this was weird.
Apologies for the length and the generally vague post. I just wanted to say hi really!