(Closed) Introduction, rantand needing a HUGE pick me up

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

CONGRATS and Welcome to the Hive!  Can’t wait to see what you plan, have fun with it.  Have you checked out the DIY wedding stuff on Pinterest yet?

If you ever need $$$ saving ideas, the Bees are full of them!  I can honestly say that my inexpensive wedding would not have happened without them.

Post # 4
6226 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

It’s good to get it all out! I don’t think you should be upset about the “circumstances” of the proposal, but if you want a new ring, you should be able to find a nice one on whatever budget you set. I would talk to him about it if it bothers you.

If you’re planning a wedding, I would tell your mother right away. I would be very hurt if I were her and found out

Post # 6
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Exs are always a PITA, just ignore all the emotional BS she will throw or it will make you crazy.  Enjoy your planning and don’t let anyone take away the joy in that, because it is fun. You are planning your wedding, the beginning of a new life and you both deserve to enjoy it. When you need pick me ups in the process, come to the Bee, there is always someone here for that.

Chin up Lady

Post # 7
3307 posts
Sugar bee

It the situation doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Don’t marry this guy.

Post # 8
1715 posts
Bumble bee

First of I suggest you research other gems besides diamonds, if you plan on replacing your ering.

I have a white sapphire which is a great stone, also moissanite is a wonderful alternative, or white topaz….on and on and on…So many choices. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg on an ering.

Davids Bridal is a great place to look for a less expensive but still beautiful dress. 

I’m an okie bride so if you plan to have your wedding in green country, I’d be happy to show you my list of vendors and venues. My wedding budget is about 5k including rings. So I got a lot of money saving ideas. =)

Congrats and welcome to the bee =)

Post # 9
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Congrats. All I can say to you is to write everything down. Pro and Con that mess. If you are this stressed/worried/unsure- you need to find out what the root of the problem is so you can enter this fully ready.

It’s dangerous to start of the wobbly line of it could be cold feet OR this could be a huge mistake. We’re all here for you, and I hope you figure out what is best for you and yours.


Congrats on the engagement. I don’t have a traditional diamond ring either, but it’s perfect for me. Don’t sweat the small stuff, focus on sorting the big picture out!


Welcome to the hive!!

Post # 10
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

After reading your ring post and finding this one I’d have to say that if you have the money to spend thousands of dollars on trips to see this guy then you are probably in a great financial place in life.  Him giving you a 8.50 which totalled out to 20 after postage and its not even a size you can wear seems rather inconsiderate. And like I imagined since you said its from China he did plan it ahead of time.  I don’t know how he couldn’t have figured out that it wouldn’t be real gold.  Did you have the stones in the ring checked out to see if they are real or if they are just glass?

I mean congrats on the proposal but if you have given up so much for this man and he in return pulled a stunt like this that just didn’t feel right to you then like PPs have said I think you have your answer.  I would be furious if I were you.  On the other hand you are young and have plenty of time in life to met a man who doesn’t live half a world away, and understands you enough to know he should ask for your mother’s blessing and that a gold filled ring will not last long and its definately something that you are not proud to come home and show off to your family.

I think you might want to take some time to yourself and really weigh the pros and cons.   You have given up a lot for this man your dreams, your hard earned cash and your time for months on end far far away from your family.  And in return you get a lukewarm proposal, with a half way decent piece of costume jewerly that you don’t feel okay with discussing with you mom.  Your mom should be one of the first people you should be able to tell about something like this.  And after being so considerate of him you would think he would take more than a few mere moments to pick out an enagement ring.

After you get things sorted out for yourself have a nice long chat with him about how you are feeling about all this.  And welcome to the bee.  There are always people here to lend you a helping hand.


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