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Post # 3
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@karen7645:I am also a punjabi sikh girl (living in Toronto) and my Fiance is Guyanese Christian who also lives in Toronto.

We are also doing 2 ceremonies and a reception for everyone.  I don’t think my in-laws are super happy about me not converting — but they are not upset about it.  The funny thing is that my Future Brother-In-Law told his wife she had to convert (she is Hindu) in order to get married in the church.  So everyone assumed I had to do the same.  But, I did some research and spoke with their priest and i don’t have to convert since my Fiance is a baptized christian.  My Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t too happy when she realized she didn’t have to convertEmbarassed

Otherwise, my family has been wonderfully accepting of my Fiance and we are all looking forward to it!!!

Post # 4
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@karen7645:I am also a punjabi sikh girl (living in Toronto) and my Fiance is Guyanese Christian who also lives in Toronto.

We are also doing 2 ceremonies and a reception for everyone.  I don’t think my in-laws are super happy about me not converting — but they are not upset about it.  The funny thing is that my Future Brother-In-Law told his wife she had to convert (she is Hindu) in order to get married in the church.  So everyone assumed I had to do the same.  But, I did some research and spoke with their priest and i don’t have to convert since my Fiance is a baptized christian.  My Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t too happy when she realized she didn’t have to convertEmbarassed

Otherwise, my family has been wonderfully accepting of my Fiance and we are all looking forward to it!!!

Post # 5
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@karen7645:I am also a punjabi sikh girl (living in Toronto) and my Fiance is Guyanese Christian who also lives in Toronto.

We are also doing 2 ceremonies and a reception for everyone.  I don’t think my in-laws are super happy about me not converting — but they are not upset about it.  The funny thing is that my Future Brother-In-Law told his wife she had to convert (she is Hindu) in order to get married in the church.  So everyone assumed I had to do the same.  But, I did some research and spoke with their priest and i don’t have to convert since my Fiance is a baptized christian.  My Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t too happy when she realized she didn’t have to convertEmbarassed

Otherwise, my family has been wonderfully accepting of my Fiance and we are all looking forward to it!!!

Post # 6
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sorry that it posted 3x 🙁

Post # 7
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Hi ladies,

I am newly engaged too. I am punjabi sikh in portland getting married to an american christain guy. My family is super against it. They have even stopped talking to me, but they say they will attend the wedding, but I am not expecting them to attend. I think they are just saying that right now and at the end they will not attend. Thankfully, my Fiance family is very accepting of me and my culture.

I will be having a sikh wedding (with or without my parents) in May-June(not decided a date yet) in Portland Oregon. My Fiance is born Christan, but he is agnostic so he is ok with just one wedding ceremony. Also, since people from my family are mostly not going to attend, it will be a small wedding.

Nice to meet you @kiran08 and @karen7645. I am probably going to go to Vancouver or Toronto to do all my wedding shopping! I have been to both cities before and love shopping there!

What does FSIL mean? I am new to the boards so I don’t know all the abbreviations yet.

Keep us updated on your wedding.

Shopgal

Post # 8
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Karen, Kiran, and Shopgal — welcome! I’m still here on the boards (long engagement). We are having an interfaith wedding — I’m an Indian (1/2 Bengali 1/2 Tamil, came to US age 3) girl marrying a white agnostic-from-Catholic-background from upstate NY. We are planning one fusion ceremony and north indian lunch reception with a western casual dinner.

There’s still lots we haven’t done, so I may be around for awhile!

Post # 9
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@shopgal:Future Sister-In-Law means future sister-in-law.  I am sorry to hear about your family’s reaction to your wedding.  I have noticed within my own family and friends who have had inter-faith marriages, the families behave this way because they are afraid of the unknown.  Once they get to know the other person and realize that they are not that different, then they start to come around.  If not, they definitely come around once there are grand children!!!

I really hope everything works out for you.

If you need any tips on where to shop if you come to Toronto, let me know.  I think I went to every store before I bought my 2 outfits!!

Post # 10
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hi ladies,

I am in TN getting married to white american guy. I am a muslim and he has already converted so we will be having a traditional Indian-Muslim wedding! We are very excited and we have finally set a date. We have been going back forth because ofcourse in our culture one thing can ruin an entire weekend! I am going to India in January to go shopping, I think.

@shopgal – I am so sorry to hear about your situation! My parents were against me dating a white guy but once they got to know him, they loved him. My mom even goes around bragging he’s better than a brown guy! lol I hope your parents truly realize that he makes you happy and come around! Goodluck! =)

@kiran08 – I have never been to Canada but you said you bought both your outfits there? In the states everywhere I go there prices are like RIDICULOUS!! I know I could the same outfit for merely quarter of the price!

@karen7645 – I am glad you started another board! Yay!

@Miss sequoia – I am glad your still here, I would love to hear what all you have accomplished!

I love how we are all unique in our own way! I am glad that we have girls here, and I would love to hear all about everyone’s plans! Take care!

Post # 11
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Omigosh! There is actual life on these boards!? I am in Toronto as well. I am sorry to hear about your issues shopgal. I am also going into an interfaith, intercultural wedding. *gulp* My Fiance and I decided early on in the relationship to include each other in our families so our family members got to know us and also each other really well. There was friction at first but we took care of that this way.

Post # 12
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow! Is it  just me or are we just all interfaith, intercultural brides-to-be? It was terrifying thing for me at first, becuase I knew nobody, well I myself was shocked at first lol I had never dated outside of my culture, so this was pretty different. One thing led  to another, and before I knew I was in love with the worlds most amazing man!

Post # 13
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671 posts
Busy bee

Hello ladies! 

I am in Florida (for now, in the process of moving in with Fiance in Los Angeles). We are both Hindu ( I am from Trinidad and he is from Guyana) and are getting married in Colorado Springs in a Protestant chapel! LOL It is a military chapel where he graduated from ( US Air Force Academy) I usually bounce between here and the military boards. @shopgirl my situation is different yet not so different from yours. We are both the same religion and have the same culture except I have a child from a previous relationship and my FI’s family has completely shunned him (always fighting, telling him he is ruining the family for being with me, yelling and cursing and telling him to break up with me etc) So I somewhat know what you are going through and it sucks! I really really want things to change but I have no clue what to do, or if there is anything I can do. ugh! 

@kiran I need to know where to shop! I have heard of one store in LA but I haven’t checked it out yet, I know CA has a large Indian population and prob has much nicer stuff and a better variety

 

Post # 14
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Wannabee

Hi Ladies!

I too am a Punjabi Sikh girl marrying a caucasian guy who is not religious. You are not alone, Shopgirl. My parents are also very difficult, although at this point they have accepted him and know they cannot do anything about it. But there is still a huge expectation on us to have the traditional giant Indian wedding, and the planning has proven to be a complete nightmare.

We’ve been looking for venues for months and can’t find a good place (we want a place that’s charming, not a bleak hotel conference room) that allows outside catering and also allows for the 200 guests my parents want to invite! We are now considering the option of having a destination wedding in the Caribbean or elsewhere.

This process is so stressful and frustrating. Today I was showing my mom a venue that I like and all she could say was “why don’t you just pick whatever you want, you’re doing everything your own way anyway.” And I was just completely blown away, we are going through all this just to find a hall to accomodate the giant party THEY want, not us! If it was up to us we’d have an adorable little vintagey backyard wedding party with lanterns and wildflowers, or a beach wedding in a cute little beach town or something.

If anyone has any advice for me, I’d really appreciate it!

Post # 15
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13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hi everyone,

 

Just wanted to throw in my two cents from someone who just got married. My husband (yey still like saying that) is Jewish and I’m hindu, and we actually had a great wedding with aspects from both cultures. The day of the actual wedding we had two ceremonies: A morning hindu ceremony, followed by a south indian lunch, and a jewish ceremony performed at sunset followed by a cocktail hour, and a “normal” reception. We also had a traditional mehndi, an american style rehearsal dinner, and a visit to the temple in the days leading up the wedding. It was both crazy and amazing, and it was truly one of the best days of our lives.

That being said, we had incredibly open and supportive parents, so it was easier for us.

DCWeddings I do understand your frustrations. I went through the same issue on the indian giant wedding versus what I wanted,” a vineyard/mountainy small outdoor wedding.” Result – 350 people wedding in Miami that combined both outdoor and indoor venues. Honestly this is something I think a LOT of indians go through, and I fought with my mom in the beginning bc of it. However, once we settled the fact that it was not going to be small and in the mnts, the planning got much better and we really had an amazing wedding.

FYI, I’m actually starting a wedding planning business on the side with the plan to focus on fusion weddings. I’m asking people if they need some free help in the next year, so I can build experience. If you want tips ,help, or any info about our interfaith/culture wedding, feel free to message me.

Thanks!

 

 

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