Post # 1
I just finished the first day of a full week of training a new employee. That means she’s in my office with me.. all. day. long. Not only do I find it draining to have zero time to myself, but it’s also inevitable that we make small talk throughout the day. In addition to being an introvert, I’m pretty guarded around new people, so I ended the day feeling oddly vulnerable as well. Any tips to mitigate this or at least to help me get through the week?
Post # 2
I’m also an introvert. I find that asking questions about the other person usually gets the conversation going, like where she’s from, where did she work before, what’s she hoping to learn from this job. Maybe go grab a coffee with her and bring back to the office so she will be chatty. I’d also tell her in a nice way that you’ve got some work to do and may not be “on” all the time. Can you introduce her to other people who can chat with her for a bit?
Post # 3
ilovelift : if she’s draining you emotionally then don’t forget to take breaks for yourself to recharge, like head to the kitchen or for a quick walk around the building.
Post # 4
ilovelift : I would hate that too, but just being gaurded doesn’t make it impossible to have some light hearted chit chat with a new coworker. Ask about previous jobs, what part of town they live in, talk about the company since they are new to it (I assume).
And don’t feel like you have to be talking non stop with this person, they might find it equally exhausting.
It’s one week, just keep reminding yourself of that.
Post # 5
Ugh that sounds like my nightmare too lol. Give her some tasks to do. Get her to book meetings with other people she’s going to be working with so she’s gone for an hour here and there. Give her a manual/documents/computer files to read on her own and ask her to write questions for you to answer later on.
Post # 6
I’m introverted and something that has helped me in situations that I feel are socially awkward is to just stop worrying about awkward silences. So, if I’m in a one-on-one situation with someone I don’t know well, I’ll try to make small talk for awhile, but if I’m exerting all the effort and not getting much in response, eventually I will just drop it and not worry about awkward silence. I figure if the other person isn’t bothered enough by periods of silence to initiate more small talk, why should I be bothered about it?
I would just do your job training her, be pleasant (obviously), but not worry about the small talk. It’s only one week – you can do it.
Post # 7
Thanks y’all. I can do the chit chat thing easily enough. I think the vulnerable feeling comes because at the end of a full day with someone else with a lot of chatting, I wonder if I’ve overshared. Y’all are right though. It’s only one week, and your advice is helpful. So thanks again!