(Closed) Confused guest RSVP – odd but a little funny

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@classical_wolf:  Well given that the vast majority of weddings have the ceremony right before the reception, it makes sense that they would ask about coming to the ceremony if they didn’t realize it was private.  I think they were just trying to be polite and show that they do care about you.  They aren’t able to make it to the reception, but since you are important to them, they wanted to at least support you and watch you get married.  I don’t think the request is out of line.  All you have to do is let them know that they will be missed and while you appreciate their support, you are having a private ceremony with just immediate family.

Post # 4
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Chances are as this person just isn’t familiar with your type of Wedding timeline they’ve only seen the traditional ones where Reception immediately follows Ceremony

So because you invited them to the Reception, and they cannot make it they wanted you to know they are available however earlier in the day and “would love to be there”

Small Intimate Weddings (with just a handful of people) or Elopements, or Trips down to the Courthouse, or to hte JOP and being held the day / week before etc. aren’t what most people think of when they hear the words Wedding (at least not here in North America)

So you can’t really fault the Guest for the misunderstanding either.

I hope your wording in the reply didn’t make him feel self-conscious (dumb) about his Question.

I am sure once he read the explanation, he then understood perfectly as to WHY there was no Invite for the Ceremony.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@classical_wolf:  I am confused. Was this person only invited to the ceremony or reception? We are having a similar situation, and it did baffle a lot of my FI’s friends. Unfortunately, things get a little tricky in certain areas when one strays from the traditional way of doing things. 

Post # 9
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@classical_wolf:  I think you meant to say reception where you said ceremony in this sentence

We received an RSVP back from someone who was (only) invited to the ceremony,

It’s causing even more confusion.

Post # 10
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@classical_wolf:  Your post says “was only invited to the ceremony”. Do you mean they were only invited to the reception?  If that’s the case, kindly reply,

‘That’s so nice of you to think of us, we are getting married in a small ceremony the day before with only our immediate family as witnesses. thank you for your thoughts!’

Post # 12
6104 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@classical_wolf:  edit: nevermind, already fixed 🙂

Post # 15
3679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So if 99% of the guests are being invited to the reception, does that mean that 1% aren’t being invited to the reception? Or that you’re inviting 2500-3000 guests total if you’re having 25-30 people invited to the ceremony?

Post # 16
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

That’s sweet. We didn’t differentiate between ceremony/reception invites, but we had a couple of people who had other commitments that night but still came just to the ceremony because they wanted to see us get married, and that really meant a lot to me!

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