Post # 1
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about implementing the second and third parts of Mr. Bee’s backup plan. When I’ve been in the throes of disappointment recently, I’ve been craving something that I do as me rather than us for me to find an escape in. I’ve let most of my old hobbies go over time as I’ve been in this relationship, changed jobs, moved, and adjusted to having less money to spend on fun things.
Have any of you ladies been consciously trying to implement the backup plan? What ways have you chosen to focus on your own interests and invest in yourself?
Post # 3
I haven’t done the back up plan, per se, but I have been doing more of my things since April. Going to the gym, scrapbooking, traveling and spa time! I just like to spoil myself because a baby will be in the picture before I know it and I need to relish the time while I get to spend my money on me only.LOL Also, just trying to get healthy by going to the gym. My hobby of scrapbooking never stopped. I LOVE taking pictures and putting them into albums and decorating them.
Post # 4
I think it would be great for you to implement the backup plan in Mr. Bee’s plan. It’s great to do things for yourself so you can feel more fulfilled, with or without a ring. Good luck!
Post # 5
Oh yes! Get back into your hobbies, for sure.
I started working out more, having monthly dinners with my old college girlfriends, and I also started volunteering.
Post # 6
I agree – if you have let hobbies go, pick them back up!
I am not a big one for hobbies, but I make sure I go to the gym a few times a week… I used to have plans to go but if the boy wanted to hang out I would see him instead. Now I go to the gym and put that first, and see him afterwards. Its great because I am getting healthier, and is a good stress reliever!
Post # 7
I’m hoping tomorrow will be a good start into implementing the backup plans for me. My boyfriend is as I type this on his way across the country to start a new job – so for the next 9 months or so we’re going to be in a LDR. I am determined to use this time to my advantage, get back into my hobbies, kick butt in school and get back into a serious workout routine. My sisters wedding is Nov. 2011 and I have a large weight loss goal to achieve before then. I’m going to miss him like crazy, but I am looking forward to hopefully taking advantage of this time apart.
Post # 8
I’ve been doing some further reflection on the “investing in yourself” phase of the Back-up Plan. One thing I remember reading about is to do 3 things every day that make you happy. So when you’re in a good mood, write down a big long list of all the things you can do for yourself that make you happy (mine includes working out, catching up with old friends, doing my volunteer work, cooking, bubble baths, etc).
I did this exercise a few times in my life, holidng myself accountable to the “3 things”. I’ve even gone so far as to write down every day I do it, and have a buddy who’s working on the same thing.
Another variation with the “3 things” is to do something for *yourself*, do something for *your home* (i.e. clean up a shelf in the kitchen, buy yourself some flowers for the table, or clearn out of old clothes from your closet and take them to Goodwill to donate) and something for *someone else* (either something nice for someone who needs help, or something anonymous such as making a donation, picking up trash you see radomly on the street, paying for the bridge toll for the person behind you, etc).
It’s just another way of reminding ourselves that making our home more beautiful/investing in our home, and being generous toward others raises our spirits and is part of “good self-care”.