(Closed) Investing in yourself

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
3587 posts
Sugar bee

I haven’t done the back up plan, per se, but I have been doing more of my things since April. Going to the gym, scrapbooking, traveling and spa time! I just like to spoil myself because a baby will be in the picture before I know it and I need to relish the time while I get to spend my money on me only.LOL Also, just trying to get healthy by going to the gym. My hobby of scrapbooking never stopped. I LOVE taking pictures and putting them into albums and decorating them.

Post # 4
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it would be great for you to implement the backup plan in Mr. Bee’s plan.  It’s great to do things for yourself so you can feel more fulfilled, with or without a ring.  Good luck!

Post # 5
Member
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh yes! Get back into your hobbies, for sure.

I started working out more, having monthly dinners with my old college girlfriends, and I also started volunteering.

Post # 6
Member
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree – if you have let hobbies go, pick them back up!

I am not a big one for hobbies, but I make sure I go to the gym a few times a week… I used to have plans to go but if the boy wanted to hang out I would see him instead. Now I go to the gym and put that first, and see him afterwards. Its great because I am getting healthier, and is a good stress reliever!

Post # 7
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256 posts
Helper bee

I’m hoping tomorrow will be a good start into implementing the backup plans for me.  My boyfriend is as I type this on his way across the country to start a new job – so for the next 9 months or so we’re going to be in a LDR.  I am determined to use this time to my advantage, get back into my hobbies, kick butt in school and get back into a serious workout routine.  My sisters wedding is Nov. 2011 and I have a large weight loss goal to achieve before then.  I’m going to miss him like crazy, but I am looking forward to hopefully taking advantage of this time apart.

Post # 8
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’ve been doing some further reflection on the “investing in yourself” phase of the Back-up Plan.  One thing I remember reading about is to do 3 things every day that make you happy. So when you’re in a good mood, write down a big long list of all the things you can do for yourself that make you happy (mine includes working out, catching up with old friends, doing my volunteer work, cooking, bubble baths, etc).

I did this exercise a few times in my life, holidng myself accountable to the “3 things”. I’ve even gone so far as to write down every day I do it, and have a buddy who’s working on the same thing.

Another variation with the “3 things” is to do something for *yourself*, do something for *your home* (i.e. clean up a shelf in the kitchen, buy yourself some flowers for the table, or clearn out of old clothes from your closet and take them to Goodwill to donate) and something for *someone else* (either something nice for someone who needs help, or something anonymous such as making a donation, picking up trash you see radomly on the street, paying for the bridge toll for the person behind you, etc).

It’s just another way of reminding ourselves that making our home more beautiful/investing in our home, and being generous toward others raises our spirits and is part of “good self-care”.

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