(Closed) Invisible/chronic illness bees…. Public transport woes?

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I rarely use public transit, but have the same issue as you. I have no good way of asking for a seat. Honestly, some times when I use public transit I bring my cane even if I don’t really need it that day (I use it probably 20% of the time I leave the house). I feel like people are more apt to believe I am allowed to sit there if I have my cane (or maybe they fear me hitting them with it! 😛 ) I have a handicapped permit so I can park in better spots and have had people make comments. No real advice, just hugs

Post # 4
1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Just be upfront, tell the person you are asking to move that you have a disability and need a seat especially if they are sitting in the disabled seats!


Post # 6
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t have an illness but I do have a chronic foot problem that leaves me in constant pain but doesn’t necessarily require a boot/assistive device. I don’t take public transportation often but do have a handicapped placard so I can minimize walking. So when I, a healthy looking 21 year old without a limp, get out of the car in a handicapped spot, I get a LOT of funny looks and MANY comments (Comments like “Wow, you know some non-selfish people actually NEED those spots” or name-calling). At first it bothered me a lot, but then I realized this is who I am. I need assistance in order to be comfortable. So I don’t let funny looks/comments bother me and I definitely don’t hesitate to ask someone to help.

If you just simply and politely tell the person that you have a disability and need to sit where they are, most of the time they will happily oblige. So sorry you have to deal with this 🙁 It feels weird because your health isn’t that person’s business, but sometimes you just have to let them know so you can take care of yourself. Don’t worry about what people think of you, focus only on your own well-being. Hugs!!

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