Post # 1
My fiance is from Gemany and came here as a child. While we’d love for his family still there to come to the wedding, we know this is most likely not an option. His mother has told us that in Germany they send “announcements” of the upcoming wedding to some people instead of an invitation. This lets those that would not be neccessarily be invited aware of the event. She said we should send hisfamily an announcement instead of an invitation and then they won’t feel obligated to come. Has anyone ever heard of this?
Post # 3
If she means a wedding announcment – those are typically sent after a wedding.
I suppose you could send an engagement announcement, but then they may wonder if you’re inviting them to the wedding!
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of it but then again I’m not from Germany. I’d probably follow her lead. If she says that’s typically how they do it there- then do it. But my question is- what happens if there are people that would like to attend, won’t they feel slighted if they’re automatically not invited? I don’t know, I guess its all just a cultural thing.
Post # 5
Is his family coming not an option because of the location? If that’s the reason, I would send them an invitation anyway, just so they feel included. Only to the family members you would normally invite, though. If they don’t come, it’s perfectly acceptable to send them a wedding announcement after the wedding if you’d like.
Post # 6
Yeah, I’m pretty confused about the whole thing. I really don’t know what I’m going to do. Sometimes I think she may be the one who is confused as to what an announcement is and when it is sent. Thanks for your imput.
Post # 7
Hm that’s a little confusing. We have family in Europe and the Middle East that we know most won’t be able to come but we are sending invitations anyways, just to let them know we were thinking of them and wanted to share our excitement. I would still send invitations, just as a good will gesture and to let them know that you wish they could attend and so they don’t feel left out.