(Closed) invitation addressing question (outer envelope only)

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

1.  The second person should not be included on the same envelope, each gets their own invitation sent to their homes.

2.  Not sure off the top of my head, but you can probably find this on a Google search.

3.  You don’t put "and guest" anywhere on the envelope, it is put on the RSVP card.  That only applies to your situation where an inner envelope isn’t used.

Post # 4
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Technically, only the people actually living at the address where the invitation is sent should have their names on the outer envelope.  This can include children; they would be listed on a second line for a formal type of invitation:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
The Misses Sally and Susie Doe

Although for a formal invitation the children’s names would go only on the inner envelope. 

Niki is right that for a formal invitation, you would send separate invitations to your friends who are seriously dating but not living together.

However, since you’re not using an inner and outer envelope, I’m going to assume that you’re not going terribly formal.  I also assume that you don’t necessarily want to maximize the number of invitations you have to send.  In that case, there’s no particular reason why you couldn’t include the significant other on a second address line.  After all, you are inviting the couple together – you wouldn’t use separate invitations if you had an inner envelope.

As to the "and guest," I suppose you can put that on the outer envelope as well, if you really like.  I am sort of anti-"and guest."  For our single friends who weren’t in a relationship, we called them to ask if there was someone special that we should include on the invitation.  I thought that the least we could do for someone who we thought was special enough to be invited was to find out who they might like to bring as a date.

Post # 6
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I should have done this search before I just posted my question…however I see that the children issue was never resolved.

Paloma – what did you end up doing for families?


Post # 7
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I only had outer envelopes and put "and family" on most the invites that included children (because practically everyone had 3+ children and writing all of their names would fill up the entire invite). For those with single children, instead of "and family," I just listed that child’s name underneath the parents. I don’t think that any of what I did was considered "formal," but it worked for me!

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