Post # 1
We’re going to order our invitations tomorrow (finally – we know we are late)! I think we have decided on the one in the picture. You can see it’s a tri-fold invitation. We are only doing the Invitation and the Response card, no separate reception card. Because it’s a tri-fold invite, I’m concerned about adding extra pieces of paper to increase the weight (and cost of postage).
Would you include the wedding website information on the last piece of the card? In the sample this is where they have the reception information, so I was thinking that below that underneath the flowers we could add something like, “For more information on our wedding, including accommodations and maps, please visit our wedding website at ____” (Suggestions on how to word that are also appreciated!)
Does that sound all right, or is it improper? Or do I have to put it on a separate paper…or do I have to ENCLOSE a map and info on the accommodations? I figure you’ll see where we’re registered online too, since I do not want to put that on the invite!!
Post # 3
Personally, I prefer to get an actual map that I can take with me when I go to the wedding.
But it isnt an etiquette issue, either is polite.
Post # 4
Enclosures make your invitation less classic and less formal, not more. The original reason for enclosures, was to include a second invitation with the first, as when some guests were invited to a private wedding breakfast in addition to the general wedding and reception to which all guests were invited. If there were no distinction and everyone were invited to the same things, it would all go on the single invitation card as a single event. To have enclosure cards for the sake of enclosure cards is an example of form without function.
By all means, put your extra information in small print on the lower right corner of your invitation card. You do not need any particular wording: simply stating your URL by itself is adequate assuming your guests have the technical acumen required to visit a website in the first place. I note that some printers are now offering a QR code for wedding invitations: I find that a bit geekily eccentric, but if you want to use one it too would go in the lower right corner. I wonder if QR codes can be printed in lavender-and-white instead of black-and-white to match your colour scheme.
Post # 5
Maybe state: “Guest information can be found on our wedding website: http://www….”
Post # 6
@andielovesj: Thanks for your feedback! I know what you mean about having the map with you….I guess if they feel that way they can always print it out, though.
@aspasia475: Thank you!! I’d never heard of the QR code….while I think the website will be fine, I don’t think they’ll really “get” the QR code, but that’s a really interesting thought!
@HVbride: I appreciate the suggestion…I don’t think I just want to write the URL, so that’s definitely an option!
Side note: My mom was a little freaked out when I told her about the wedding website being added to the invitation and wanted to know “if this was a common thing nowadays.” I didn’t even think twice about it…what do you ladies think?
Post # 7
@laurenm78: I personally think that adding a wedding website URL makes your invitation look more commercialized and less refined. I also think however that purple ink and trifolds instead of black ink engraving on a white velum french-fold card looks downright casual. If your mama is having a hard time coming to terms with the entirety of your invitation design, she has my sympathy. But if she is taking the whole modernistic invitation layout in stride, and ‘freaking out’ a little over the website URL that occupies a fairly traditional “special information’ locus on the invitation, she needs to read more wedding websites and come to terms with current fashions in stationery.
That being said, I am regularly bemused by brides’ investing a great deal of design effort into a website that will be relevant for a very few months, but never designing a permanent household web-presence. Even at my age, I have my own website shared with my nieces and nephews to post family photos and recipes where I don’t have to surrender control of the content to Facebook or reddit. I may have grown up hand-writing “Tea Sunday at four o’clock” on Mother’s visiting cards to send to her lady-friends, but I also know how to send e-vites when there’s a postal strike and I want to plan a party regardless. Being of your mother’s (or possibly grandmother’s) generation, and having a nineteen-fifties-esque aesthetic, doesn’t mean one has to allow oneself to be stuck in the nineteen-fifties.
Wedding websights are a standard “thing” in the twenty-first century, and briefly and discretely including them on a wedding invitation is a current fashion.
Now, what I just proposed to the sarcastic Sophia to our mutual delight, was the idea of creating a QR code that would decode to “Tea Sunday at four o’clock” and overprinting that — just the QR code, nothing else — on my formal visiting cards to be sent through the mail to my guests the next time I have the twenty-something generation over for tea 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks so much for your input…I actually decided to go with a different, more traditional invitation. I still love this one, but I feel like I could use something similar for….well, for anything in the future, where you only get to do the Classic wedding invitation once in your life! (well, that’s the plan)
We put the wedding website at the bottom of the Reception card, since the reception info would NOT fit at the bottom of my invite and we had to end up doing the extra card – but we got EVERYTHING for 40% off, so I actually paid LESS than I would have! 🙂
Thanks again for your help!