- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My partner and I are having a small party/reception for friends (following our civil ceremony in October). I hand-made a beautiful set of invitations for the party, but I underestimated the time I’d need to correct errors, etc. I ended up sending the invitations later than I’d planned so that most guests will receive them a week later than intended. Instead of having 18 days to meet the RSVP deadline, they now have 11. We’re not necessarily sticklers about the RSVP date (it’s a super small affair and the caterer just needs 72 hours notice), plus we set the deadline two weeks in advance to give some wiggle room for our friends with whom we clearly have procrastination in common.
The party is in mid-December and may compete with other holiday parties and gatherings, and I’m afraid that (1) folks may have committed to another event in the those seven days between the appropriate and the actual time they’d received the invitations, (2) folks may get offended and question whether or not they were on some sort of “B-list” or (3) people will get panicked about trying to arrange their schedule by the RSVP date and ultimately say – in the spirit of most worrisome deadlines and blown diets – “just forget it.”
What actions can I take to correct my flub? Is there a way to express that we’re flexible about the deadline without putting people (especially those who – for whatever reason – have to decline) in an awkward situation? Is there a way to express this without looking desperate and unpopular?
Any guidance is deeply appreciated!