Post # 1
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Busy bee
So here a few lessons I’ve learned in the process of sending/receiving wedding invitations/responses that I wanted to share with you all. It’s half advice, half venting, so thanks in advance for listening!! 
1.) If you can, put the guests’ return addresses on the resopnse card envelopes so that you can figure out who they are when they forget to put their own names on the response cards. If you can’t return address them, at least jot a little number somewhere on the card and associate that number with someone on your guest list. You don’t really think that people will forget to put their own names, but trust me, they will. 
2.) Our response cards said, “A response is requested by September 10”, and then said “Guests:” and had two lines for people to fill in their names. A LOT of people read “guests” to mean “who is your +1” and only wrote the name of their guests (not their own names) on the response card.
3.) You can try saying “please initial the entree choices below”, but you’re still going to get numbers, checkmarks, everything but initials. You’ll eventually give up on trying to keep track of exactly who got what, and you’ll just stick a chicken sticker and a fish sticker on the same place card and give up, and that’s ok.
4.) You will get at least one response card with the name of a the +1 only and a checkmark in the entree choices. And then you will throw it across the room. 
End rant, thank you.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Am i really the only one who had these problems?! Maybe I’m just dumb and it’s everyone else that understands…
Post # 4
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Honey bee
LOL this is definitely good advice! I can see this happening to me. Numbering the cards is a really good idea (especially if you have the postcard reply cards). Any change you can match these up by the postmark??
Post # 5
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Busy bee
We received two cards without anyone’s name attached to it – one of them wrote down 5 guests!! That blew me away. a big fat line for your name and nothing. I should have numbered them for sure!
RSVPs tested my patience. So much rides on getting these numbers in for the caterer, and people have literally no clue lol
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
This is why I’m so glad I’m taking the cheap route and making people RSVP by Internet or phone. That way when they do something stupid I can (hopefully politely) let them know immediately and try not to throw the phone or kick my computer 🙂 Hehe.
I’m sure I’ll manage to hit a ton of snags too though. It’s like problems are magnetic to RSVPs.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Yep, we numbered very lightly on the back corner. We have gotten about 30 RSVPs back and only 2…yes 2! have written return addresses. But, no one has forgotten to write their names on the inside…. But, on the other hand, a few have been illegilable…. so I recommend numbering them lightly!! It’s actually a very funny process. Fiance was so convinced no one would forget return addresses. I crack up everyday when we get them. And 3 people have written well wish notes on the back, which we didn’t notice at first. Freakin Funny!!!