Post # 1
I am putting the finishing touches on my DIY wedding invitations and I am stuck on how to word the requested attire. I am worried that the traditional definitions do not match colloquial impressions. What would you wear if you got an invite that says: Formal Attire Requested?
Post # 3
@jules24chi: Well personally I would hit the shops full of excitement! So when I hear formal attire – these are some of the things I’d expect to be acceptable:
Black Midi Dress
Post # 4
I find “black tie” “black tie optional,” or “cocktail attire” clearer than “formal attire” but perhaps that is because formal attire makes me think of business formal (i.e. suits for all). If you want people in option 2 (tuxes and gowns), I’d go with “black tie requested”, and for option 1, I’d go with “black ite optional”
Post # 5
@Cariad: Thanks for the input and those dresses are super cute! I guess technically ‘black tie’ and ‘formal’ are interchangeable and mean tuxeos and long dresses. Semi-formal is traditionally used for suits and cocktail dresses. I just don’t think these match up nowadays. I am afraid if I put semi-formal there will be some jeans showing up in the mix (ick!) I also don’t want to use “formal” and give people the impression they have to go rent tuxedos or buy long gowns.
@babu22: Thanks! I would ideally like people to be ‘option 1’ and I think that “Cocktail Attire” is a great way around the wording. Thanks!
Post # 6
I would assume ‘formal attire’ is the same as ‘black tie optional.’ Dark suit for guys, cocktail or long dress for women.
Post # 7
I wrote “black tie optional” on ours which according to etiquette is suits and dresses (it’s one step down from black tie). Our groomsmen are wearing tuxes, but I didn’t want everyone to feel like that was needed.
Post # 8
@jules24chi: Agreed! I am putting “cocktail attire” on my invites, and on our website, I’ve written
Cocktail attire or dressier is appropriate.
Think of this as an excuse to dust off your best suit and
pull out your sparkly dress
Basically I don’t want people wearing khakis and a polo 🙂 I considered “black tie optional” but i felt like I should have the bridal party in gowns if that were the case, and they’re wearing short dresses.
Post # 9
I consider cocktail attire to be a knee length dress (“cocktail dress”) and a dark suit for guys. I consider “black tie” to be floor length gowns and tuxes.
I think Formal Attire is pretty broad, and is less helpful than one of the other terms would be.
Post # 10
@babu22: I’m the same way. I feel that if I put “black tie optional’ people might zero in on the black tie part and think that we are expecting more. I definitely want to keep the jeans, khakis and polos out too if I can 🙂
Thanks everyone for your input! I think I will nix the “formal attire” and go with “cocktail attire is requested”