Post # 1
Got a save the date tonight for the wedding of an old friend, who I still regularly am in touch with. It only had my name on it. She knows I’m engaged, and will be married by her wedding.
Does that mean I’ll be invited alone? I find it odd to be invited to a wedding without the man that will be my husband. I’ve known her over 15 years. Do I wait and see what the invitation says and then assume if my name is on it alone that he isn’t invited? I would never ask if I could bring him, I find that rude, but I find it weird to go to a wedding alone hours away where my other friends will have husbands there…
Post # 2
I would wait til you get the invite. Maybe she was rushed. I wouldn’t read into it until the invite comes..
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about it yet. Save-The-Date Cards aren’t required, and even when people send them, they don’t necessarily send them to everyone. If you have to buy plane tickets or make other travel arrangements that make it important for you to be sure now, I’d ask about it. But if it’s a local wedding, I would just assume he’ll be included when the invitation shows up and not worry about it until then.
Post # 4
I would also recommend waiting to see what the invite says – she may have just wanted to get the date on people’s calendars and not realized that the way they were addressed might be confusing. Like others said, if you need to make travel arrangements before the invites come out, then I would touch base with her about it, but if not then I would wait for the invite.
When we sent out Save the Dates, we sent one to a couple of friends who are roomates – they will each get a plus one for the actual wedding (and get their own invite) but for the STD we just wanted to get it on their refrigerator. Reading this, I’m now wondering if they will also be confused, haha. Fortunately, neither of them are in relationships and they are local, but I may casually say something to them the next time I see them just alerting that they will be able to bring a date if they want :).
Post # 5
I’d wait too — is there any chance she didn’t know your FI’s full name? Or that you don’t live together? There could be a bunch of reasons why he wasn’t on the STD. I’m sure it was an oversight and it’ll be rectified once the invitations come out!
Post # 6
Fiance received a save the date a few months ago addressed only to him from his college roommate. Fiance was still living with this guy when we started dating 7 years ago, so it’s not like he doesn’t know who I am so I was a bit put off.
I guess I’ll find out in a few months if I’m invited? 🤔
Post # 7
Even if she didn’t know your DH’s name, she could have asked (or, less awkwardly, just have done some social media stalking). This is weird and I’d be nonplussed too. I don’t think it’s appropriate to invite you without your Darling Husband under any circumstances, even if she has never met him before.
Post # 8
I’m glad it’s not just me!