(Closed) Invitation Dilemma

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

There isn’t a poll to vote, however, yes I do think its bad if you write “Do not feel oblidated” or something along those lines.  Most people feel special when invited to a wedding and adding a word such as that would take that feeling away.

Imagine yourself receiving an invite like this … what would you think?  Being that its so far, would you still feel as obligated to go?

I know if I received this (being that I live in FL lol) and I know I wouldn’t make it – I’d send a nice card back with the RSVP just stating so.  I would assume that the bride/groom realize the distance and don’t have high expectations for the ENTIRE GUESTLIST to attend.  So, my feeling of obligation wouldn’t feel so high. 

IMO – hope it helps!

Post # 4
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wouldn’t put anything like that. It kind of sounds like an apology and you shouldn’t have to apologize for where you decided to get married.

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Could you maybe get that sentiment out via word of mouth?  I mean chat up some of your family and express that you know it’s quite a distance, etc. 

Post # 6
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t write anything on the invitation. I think it would look a little odd, and (like the PP said), you don’t need to apologize for your wedding location. What you might do, however, is spread the word through your family that you certainly don’t expect people to travel that far for your wedding, so if anyone can’t make it, there are no hard feelings.

Post # 7
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t write anything.  i would venture to say most people don’t feel that tinge about wedding (gasp even family weddings).

Post # 8
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t write anything. If I saw that i would think you’re trying to say you don’t want me to come.

Post # 9
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it. If people really don’t want to travel that far, they won’t. And if your wedding is important enough to them, it won’t feel like an obligation. Does that make sense?

Post # 11
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t write anything like that either.  You are getting married in a location that is not perfectly close for everyone, but you shouldn’t apologize for that.  You send the invite to show you would love to have them there, but after that, it is their decision as to whether they can attend or not.  I personally think that having your wedding away from where most of your guests live indicates that you do not expect everyone to go out of their way to attend anyways.  I wouldn’t worry about it too much, but you can always mention it to anyone who talks to you about it, so they know you understand not everyone will be able to make the trip.  

Post # 12
59 posts
Worker bee

Personally I would not put anything in about not feeling obligated to go.  If people are not able to come and would still like to be there I am sure they will let you know the situation.  If you really feel that you should let people know about it, I would simply call them after the invitations are sent out and let them know that you know the location is kind of inconvienent and that you will understand if they are not able to make it.

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