(Closed) invitation drama !

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

I would perhaps mention that how it would save you, her, or both of you a lot of $$$ if you design them and get them done for free! She can’t argue with free! lol

I think when you are taking something away from someone, it really helps to lesson their negative reaction if you have a replacement. So, explain that you are going to be making a great decision to save $$$, but you could really use her help on ______. Fill in the blank with whatever else she can help with that’s in her area of expertise. 

Also, perhaps she can help with the designing, as in you can show her things and ask if she has any ideas to compliment what you’re presenting. That or perhaps she can do some of the little finishing embellishments after they are printed.

Post # 4
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Tunacupcakes: Agreed!

Just find something else that she can do and maybe let her help with the design idea?

Post # 5
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think that you should be making your own invitations for your shower.  Wedding would be ok, but you really aren’t supposed to be doing any of the hosting duties for your own shower.

I wouldn’t give her any money for shower hosting.  If she is hosting the event then she is responsible for hosting an event she can afford.  If that means she calls people to invite them, then so be it, or go to the dollar store and get invites.  If she chooses to do something more elaborate, then she is responsible for paying for that choice.

Post # 6
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@andielovesj: Good point!

If she is hosting the shower then no you shouldn’t be giving her money for it then! Do you know for a fact that she wants you to help pay?

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