Post # 1
Hive, how are you addressing your wedding invitation envelopes?
Traditional etiquette is to do:
Mr. and Mrs. Joe Schmoe
However, for some reason it bothers me that doing it this way does not include the wife’s name. I’d prefer to do:
Joe and Jane Schmoe
The drawback of this is that its a lot less formal.
How are you doing your addresses? Should I just suck it up and stick with tradition, or rebel against the patriarchal approach? Other suggestions?
Post # 3
We did the formal, Mr & Mrs Joe Schmoe. Its pretty much what I always knew and our wedding was formal so we went with that. If your wedding is formal Id use it but if its more casual or not super formal I think you are fine with Joe and Jane Schmoe. Its really just a matter of personal preference.
Post # 4
You could also do Mrs. Jane and Mr. Joe Schmoe. Not sure how “proper” it is, but it’s more formal and includes the woman’s name.
Post # 5
My really formal invitations went the traditional way. Plus my mom did the envelopes, so they are very traditional!
Post # 6
i voted “Joe and Jane Schmoe,” but we’re actually doing both–my fmil, who is much more traditional/formal than my parents or me, is insisting on her invitations being addressed Mr. and Mrs., but i can’t stand it, so all of my, fi’s, and my parents’ are “joe and jane…”
Post # 7
I would also do what hilsy suggested: Mrs. Jane and Mr. Joe Schmoe. It stays formal, and you are including the woman’s name.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I did this:
Mr. and Mrs.
John and Jane Doe
123 Happy Lane
It was equitable and didn’t look weird on the envelopes!
Post # 9
I did them the traditional way, but I felt weird about it.
Post # 10
We did the formal Mr. and Mrs HisFirst HisLast on the outer envelopes. Then both names on the inner. If we did not have inner envelopes, I would have still stuck to the formal.
We recently received an invitation for my cousin’s wedding the formal way, and I was so excited to be Mrs. Husband’s Name….But maybe that is just because I am a newlywed? Ask me again in 20 years.
Post # 11
we did formal on the outside, Mr and Mrs John Schmoe, and on the inside wrote: Jack & Judy
Post # 12
Oooh Miss Ribbons, I really like your suggestion! I’m going to try that with our fonts and see how it looks. I like how it combines the formality of Mr. and Mrs. while still including the wife’s name.
Thanks everyone for your input so far!
Post # 13
We did the Mr. and Mrs. Joe Schmoe for the elderly guests (they expect this appearently) and then Mr. Joe & Mrs. Jane Schmoe for the rest.
Post # 14
I like the Miss Ribbon way too
Post # 15
I did Mrs. Jane and Mr. Joe Schmoe
Post # 16
Just let the formality of your wedding dictate the fomality of the invites.
We are having a black tie evening wedding, so we addressed the envelopes as Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Brown.