(Closed) invitation etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The rule of thumb, according to Emily Post, Martha, Crane paper, etc, is still no registry information on an invite.  You can include a card with information to your website, which can have registry info.  I have never heard of including a per-plate amount, and it would leave a bad taste in my mouth (although I’m gathering it’s an ethic thing).  I’d vote to spread that info by word of mouth, especially if you are inviting non-Italians.

Post # 4
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m going to say "no" to both. The registry thing can be included on a website, spread by word of mouth, or included in shower invitations. Also, as a non-Italian (and I"m sure you’re inviting a few), if I saw a number next to the plate I would take that as meaning you wanted a check for that amount or something. Like ErinMarquerite said, it would leave a bad taste in my mouth. I’d suggest telling your female family members and let them spread the word. Hope that helps!

Post # 5
2680 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with EAQ and say "no" to both.  If you have a wedding website, put that in your invitation on an insert.  If its is customary and you dont put it, I would think people would ask for the plate amount and it would get around by word of mouth.

Post # 6
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m from an Italian family and would say definitely NO to both. I’ve never seen a per plate price on an invite.  Put registry info on your website and make no mention of per plate.  If this is a personal family thing, have your mom discreetly give them the info they are looking for if they wont let up.

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