(Closed) Invitation Etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@mrsalexander:  You send it to your friend, but include their SO’s name on the inner envelope. If you’re not using an inner envelope, just address it to them both.

Post # 4
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrsalexander:  I had a couple of friends with similar circumstances.  I sent one invitation with both of their names inside.

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We just sent one invitation with both names inside. I would like to think that my friends can pass on the message to their S/O that they’re invited.

Post # 6
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This is different from the previous responses, but I checked my Miss Manners book to be sure.  Technically, the correct thing to do according to ettiquite is to send a separate invitation to each person at their home address.  That is how people have handled invitations sent to me and my boyfriend (we live separately).  That being said, I could understand wanting to save money and just using 1 invite per couple, particularly if there are quite a few on your guest list in this situation.

Post # 7
1696 posts
Bumble bee

According to traditional formal etiquette, a proper hostess invites every single guest as her guest:by name, with an invitation sent to their own address, and with no differentiation to suggest which guests she truly wants for their own sake and which she really wants only to keep one of her “real” guests happy. Which means that when a couple do not live together, she has to send two invitations, one to each address.

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would just send one invite to your friend and put both their names on the envelope. Simple. 

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