(Closed) invitation etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If your family is paying for the wedding and they’re picky about getting credit, it might be trickier… but if they’re nonchalant, I would go with:

Miss Sghetti


Mr Sghetti

along with their families

request the honor… etc…

Post # 4
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

RSVP needs to be at least 2 weeks before the wedding, but that depends on when you need final numbers and how long of a buffer you want to give people.  We’re doing about 3 weeks.

I’d say, put just your mom’s name.  But talk to her about it, she may have some ideas.

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

You place the names of the people who are hosting the wedding. Since both of our parents helped financially, we worded ours:

Together with their parents,


request the honor… (invitation wording)

Sorry I don’t remember the exact wording off the top of my head.

Post # 6
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am doing the same as mikan! It helps to honour everyone involved without being to specific.

I think generally people give 3-4 weeks but I think 2-3 would be fine for RSVPs! I think people will forget about doing it after 3 weeks!

Post # 7
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

If your mother is hosting then wedding, then it should only list her name on the invitation.

Traditionally only the brides parents names are listed on the invitation.

Speak with your mother first and see if she’s okay with your fiance’s parents names being listed on the invitation.


This would be the correct wording:

Mrs. Jeremy Smythe
requests the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of her daughter
Sarah Katherine
Mr. Michael John Williams
at St. Mary’s Church, Knightsbridge,
on Saturday 11th September
at 2.30 o’clock
and afterwards at
The Savoy Hotel.


Post # 8
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

if your mom is paying for the wedding, it’s nice to say “jane smith requests the honour of your presence at the wedding of her daughter…” to let guests know that she’s hosting it and to give credit to your mom (i think traditionally it was the parents who sent out the invitations).  as to whether to put your father’s name on there, i think that’s a personal decision for you and your mom–maybe there’s some etiquette rule out there for it, but with something this personal i think you as a family gets to decide.

if it’s you and your fiance paying for the wedding, you can do “me and him, together with their families, request the pleasure/honour…”

as for timing, 3 weeks is plenty to let people make travel arrangements and whatnot, but 2 weeks is nice because you get those RSVP’s in quicker! we gave 3 weeks–not too long that they will forget out rvsp’ing.

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