Post # 1
I’m getting ready to have our invitations,etc. printed and I have a dilemma. My finace and I are getting married at his church and his friends and family will make up about 75% of the guest list. It’s traditional (at his church) that the groom’s family is the host of the wedding (it’s a Serbian Orthodox wedding) and it that makes sense considering it’s at his church and his parents have offered to help us pay for the wedding. My family is helping, also, but they are all on the East Coast and the wedding is in Indiana (and my fiance and I live in Arizona), so again, logistically, it makes sense that his parents host the wedding. I don’t have an issue with that piece.
My issue is minor, but has to do with the wedding invitations. I asked his mom about the invitations and she would like them to say :
“Mr. and Mrs. Fathername and Mothername LastName” and I think it’s too wordy.
I would like “Mr. and Mrs. Fathername LastName“
Any advice? I have compromised on a lot of details. I’m extremely happy with how the wedding planning is going and I love his parents and family. My mom is also just as happy to not have to handle all of the details that my future Mother-In-Law is loving getting to handle. I don’t want to play games, but I definitely know that I want to save my “We’re-getting-married-at-your-church-and-my-guests-have-to-travel-therefore-not-everyone-can-make-it” card for something bigger than this invite issue. Gotta pick your battles.
Post # 3
I would let your Future Mother-In-Law have it how she wants it. Invites really aren’t that big of a deal – but parents seem to really care about the phrasing. I did a large group email w/ all of our parents w/ options for wording. Luckily, they all agreed on the same option. But I didn’t really care.
Post # 4
Frankly, if you knew how you wanted them worded, you shouldn’t have asked your Future Mother-In-Law. Never ask a question if you already know the answer! (I need to learn this lesson….)
But, now that it’s done, you can either go her way, or just send them to the printers your way and don’t apologize, just say “I prefer the more traditional look”, or “I took your advice on most of the invite, but changed a part of the wording”. It’s your wedding, this isn’t the only thing they’re getting input on (far from it!), and it’s not a big deal. Of course, only you can know if she will make it a huge deal. Even if she does, though, you can refuse to argue about it, just smile, say “oh well, it’s done now”, and change the subject to how happy her boy is because of something great you’ve done.
Post # 5
I agree with ETwedding, if you don’t care tooo much, just let her have it that way. Either way is rather traditional and formal, and no guest other than her will really notice the difference.
FWIW, we’re doing it the “wordy” way on ours. “son of Mr & Mrs Mom & Stepdad Lastname and the late Mr. Dad Lastname.” Looks fine, keeps everyone happy.
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice
I think I’m a confident person, then I get sucked into wedding planning…
I just need to get over it- printing the actual invites seems so REAL and we can’t afford to re-print them if I’m not sure.
Oh, By The Way…
My father is deceased and my mom would like it worded as:
“Mr and Mrs. FirstName LastName
request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their son
Our Girl Jill
Mr. and Mrs. MyDad’sName LastName”
I guess it doesn’t matter either way- I’m just looking forward to being married