(Closed) Invitation Etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would let your Future Mother-In-Law have it how she wants it. Invites really aren’t that big of a deal – but parents seem to really care about the phrasing. I did a large group email w/ all of our parents w/ options for wording. Luckily, they all agreed on the same option. But I didn’t really care.

Post # 4
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Frankly, if you knew how you wanted them worded, you shouldn’t have asked your Future Mother-In-Law.  Never ask a question if you already know the answer! (I need to learn this lesson….)

But, now that it’s done, you can either go her way, or just send them to the printers your way and don’t apologize, just say “I prefer the more traditional look”, or “I took your advice on most of the invite, but changed a part of the wording”.  It’s your wedding, this isn’t the only thing they’re getting input on (far from it!), and it’s not a big deal.  Of course, only you can know if she will make it a huge deal.  Even if she does, though, you can refuse to argue about it, just smile, say “oh well, it’s done now”, and change the subject to how happy her boy is because of something great you’ve done. 

Post # 5
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with ETwedding, if you don’t care tooo much, just let her have it that way. Either way is rather traditional and formal, and no guest other than her will really notice the difference.

FWIW, we’re doing it the “wordy” way on ours. “son of Mr & Mrs Mom & Stepdad Lastname and the late Mr. Dad Lastname.” Looks fine, keeps everyone happy.

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