(Closed) Invitation Etiquette as a Guest

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just to clarify, it sounds like his family only invites HIM, not his ex wife (your mom) and family, or his new wife.  In the past, they have expected your father to let you know that you were invited (by telepathy??), sometimes ask your mother to invite because they don’t have the info (just a guess) and now you’re unsure if you are even invited to the wedding because you weren’t invited to the shower and the save the date just says his name.

You wait.  You can’t do anything about the wedding invite until the invite comes.  It almost sounds like they don’t consider you close enough now to be invited to that stuff.  I am not trying to hurt your feelings, I am just wondering if the divorce somehow made them think that you’re no longer family even though you grew up together.  Is this at all a possibility?  Either way, their communication and organization skills SUCK.

Post # 4
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ugh…You really are stuck between a rock and a hard place. 

Any chance your grandmother would be willing to confirm whether you’re invited or not?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Okay, that’s just weird.  If you’re not invited to the wedding I would totally hunt down your aunt and ask if you did anything wrong. Not that you did, but it gives her an edge that she will need in order to tell you the truth or apologize for her blatent carelessness.  And my other thought about the shower is that maybe she only invited the immediate family on his side and all of her family/friends on her own side.  If you find out that another cousin in your generation/family was invited, I would totally be pissed. 

So who exactly in the fam thinks you might not be invited??

Post # 7
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

THEY ARE SO RUDE! Seriously it takes less then two seconds to send a text(which again is rude for events were you need invite for information on the place, time, address. Anytime they bring it up I would loudly say I would love to come if someone would call me and give me the information. I’m guessing since I find out about these events later, that you must not want me there. I would throw in a eye roll. I would stop paying attention to their antics.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Did they send invitations yet, or just the STD?  It’s possible they will get their act together for the invitation…. although probably not.  I would say that since they’re being so rude about it, go ahead and ask if you’re invited if you want to go.  If you don’t want to go, just assume your father is the only one invited.  And if anyone in the family asks why you didn’t go, just say “My name wasn’t on the invitation, so I assumed I wasn’t invited.”

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