Post # 1

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Helper bee
So I’m on my VERY LAST save-the-date envelope, and I am stuck.
We are inviting Mr. Jones, and his wife Mrs. Smith-Jones, and their daughter Ms. (or Miss?) Smith-Jones.
Could I just say, “The Smith-Jones Family” to avoid all this nonsense? If not, please enlighten me to the appropriate format.
Thanks bees!
Post # 4

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Busy Beekeeper
Oh man. You just made me so happy my dad hyphenated HIS name, too, when my parents got married.
I would think it was ok to put “Smith-Jones family” but I’m not sure.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
@MexiPino: Yeah, it’s tough. The internet says to do “Ms. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones”, but I can’t find anything when there’s a kid involved with a hyphenation also.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones
Ms. Susie Smith-Jones
That’s what I would do!
Post # 7

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Sugar bee
I would say “Smith-Jones family”.
Post # 8

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Busy Beekeeper
@CityBearBride: ALL on the outer envelope though? I can see doing that on an inner one, but is it not ok to say “Smith-Jones family” on the outside?
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
You could do “Ms. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones and Family”? There are so many variations of names that the etiquette authorities don’t seem to have a common answer for every option.
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
I had this and just listed everyone with their respective surnames individually on the STD.
Post # 11

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Helper bee
@CityBearBride: This is probably safest, I don’t want to offend anyone.
I’m hesitant now to say Smith-Jones family bc then maybe the husband will feel offended that he was given his wife’s name?
Running this by Mother-In-Law before I addresss it; but these are great tips!
Thanks ladies 🙂
Post # 12

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Buzzing bee
@MexiPino: Having “Family” can be vague for invitations – Does that mean Mr. Jones mother is invited?
If it’s an informal wedding, I think “Smith-Jones family” is fine, but for a formal wedding and to be clear, I’d name everyone on the outer envelope. Not a lot of people do inner envelopes (especially for Save the Dates!)