(Closed) Invitation Etiquette is it Universal? (a little off topic)

posted 11 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m not sure – how was the invitation worded? Was it clear that the invitation was only for the one child?

Post # 4
228 posts
Helper bee

I’m guessing the response would be the same as when people put extra "plus ones" on a wedding invitation… "I’m sorry, but we don’t have enough food/space/whatever" or "We only planned for X number of food/space/whatever".

 Hopefully they won’t put up a fuss!  Good luck =)

Post # 5
267 posts
Helper bee

I’d just call up and politely say "I’m sorry, there seems to have been a misunderstanding. This party is only for the children on the soccer team. I hope we can all get together some other time." You might want to add something about the activities only being appropriate for a particular age group, but that would leave the door open for them to say "we don’t mind," which is not what you want. Just keep repeating that the party is only for kids on the team, since they’ve been working so hard all season. Make it sound like a reward for the team, maybe the parents will be less likely to intrude that way.

Just to clarify, do you want the parents of the children to attend too? Because if so you may have problems with parents needing to find babysitters for their other children, and they may decline the invitation for everyone. But it’s definitely your prerogative to set boundaries for who you invite.

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmm. Yeah, it would dramatically increase your guest list if everybody brought one or two siblings. I wouldn’t be surprised if a bunch of people did this, though – I think I went to a few of my brother’s end-of-year team parties, back in the day. But since you’re offering to let parents drop kids off, I think you get around the "but I have to watch little John and Jenny too!" argument.

Post # 8
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I would just call them and say exactly what you said about not wanting the kids on the soccer team to get run over by older or younger kids. If I were one of the parents I would probably accept that.

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