Post # 1
What if you have sent a few save the dates to people who later you realize you’re not really close with these people anymore. Are you obligated to then send them the invitation? When in hindsight there are other people that we would probably rather invite?
Post # 3
As much as I want & would love to tell you to not send them an invite, lol – – – yes etiquette states everyone who receives a STD also receives an Invitation……
Post # 4
Yep. Whoever gets a save-the-date gets an invite. Think of it this way, if you aren’t close anymore they are unlikely to attend.
Post # 5
Yeah…unfortunately still send them an invite…UNLESS you absolutely know they will not come and you’ll never speak to them again…lol
Post # 6
I agree with everyone else. Keep your List B ready.. they might turn it down since you’re not cose anymore.
Post # 7
Etiquette says you invite everyone you sent save the dates to. It’s kind of rude to ask people to save the date and then not invite them. They may turn down other invitations, arrange their plans, etc specifically to be able to save the date for your wedding.
Would you let them know they’re not invited? That would probably be kind of awkward…but if you don’t, they may show up anyhow (if they have enough info) thinking the invite got lost, or may call you up asking about the invite, also thinking it’s lost…and either of those would also make for an awkward situation.
Post # 8
I would say that everyone that got a std should get an invite. I mean if I got a std, but didn’t receive the invite I might feel bad or awkward about it. I agree with previous posters- what if they call you thinking it got lost? Would you tell them you decided not to giver them one after all? Just hope they do not show!
Post # 9
I know the feeling, but I’m still sending invites to everyone who got a save the date. It’s my own fault for being too overeager and sending out the stds too early 🙂 I think the other women are right–they probably know you aren’t as close and might decline.
Post # 10
I hate that- its one of the reasons i decided against save the dates- I want to reserve the option to not invite till the last minute! Good luck!