Post # 1
Hi bees… I need some advice involving an invitation. I am a teacher and sent a STD to one of my coworkers. However, after her 4th suspension from the school for various reasons (this time the allegations are that she hit a student on the hand with a ruler), she will not be returning to teach for the rest of the school year. I’m not sure if she is technically fired, but she might as well be. Anyway, do I still invite her to the wedding because she received a STD? There will be several other coworkers in attendance at the wedding so I don’t want it to be awkward. I’m mostly leaning towards not inviting her now… does anybody disagree?
Post # 4
Nah, I wouldn’t invite her. I’m not a full supporter of “you MUST invite those who receive an STD”. Things change, no need to fret.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t invite her, either. You obviously don’t really want her there so don’t even worry about her too much.
Post # 6
Do you know her outside of work? Will you ever see her again?
If not, I’d say don’t invite her. I actually didn’t invite coworkers.
Post # 7
I don’t think so.
Like PP said, things change sometimes between sending Save-The-Date Cards and Invites. I just think if she had received an invite you can’t “un-invite.” But since it was just a STD, and in such a circumstance, I’m sticking with no.
Post # 8
@PinkMagnolia: No, I don’t know her outside of work. I don’t think I’m going to invite her… but, I work in a pretty small school and we are like family so I had to invite some of my coworkers. I would have felt terrible otherwise and I know feelings would have been hurt.
Post # 9
You could invite her if you wanted to, and leave it up to her if she wants to decline.
Post # 10
@amw511s: I’m willing to bet she wouldn’t come at this point even if she was invited, so I doubt there’d be any hard feelings. She might be relieved to not get an invite, you know?
Post # 11
Her feelings may still get hurt. The purpose of a STD is to let someone know that in invitaion is forthcoming.
Post # 12
@strawbabies: She hit her student–I think that there are other things to worry about then whether or not her feelings get hurt.
Post # 13
I vote for “her invitation gets lost in the mail”…
Post # 14
I wouldn’t invite her, but if she’s someone you run into outside of work then I would send her an email giving her a heads up about not being comfortable with her being there if the wedding is Out of Town… So she doesn’t book a hotel room or anything and then doesn’t get an invitation…
If the wedding is in town though, I would probably just let it go and not invite her.
Post # 15
If you don’t want to invite her now, don’t. She received an STD, not an invitation. If you don’t have contact with her anymore she shouldn’t be surprised when she doesn’t receive an invite. Your wedding day will be less awkward for you and your current coworkers without her there.
Post # 16
This is a valid exception to the rule of save the dates. I definitely would not invite this woman, nor are you obligated to.