Post # 1
I am a believer that in this day and age, what you do with your wedding is up to you and you can break traditions all you want because it is a day for you and your fiance.
However, I don’t intend to go crazy with it and I don’t want to offend anyone. For my invitations, instead of paying extra for fancy envelopes, I wanted to get the free plain white envelopes and buy a fancy address label to put on them to bring in a bit of color and to match the invitation itself. My mom feels that invitations need to be hand addressed in order to avoid offending people. My dad and I are of the opinion that no one will care and that they will probably not even notice. And even if they notice, surely no one will refuse to come on the basis that I use super cute address labels instead of my horrific handwriting.
Thoughts? Is this a tradition that is offensive if broken? I would say for thank yous, you must hand write them… but the invitation envelope?? What do you think?
Post # 3
@LauraHF: I think it’s something that most people won’t notice/care about.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
My handwriting is atrocious (I hand-addressed our Save-The-Date Cards and was disgusted with myself, lol), so we decided to print the address directly on the envelopes with our printer. I used a font that was pretty but still legible for the post office and in a color similar to our wedding colors (the envelopes were cream-colored). We couldn’t afford a calligrapher, so this was the most attractive option for us. I don’t think anyone would be offended if you go the plain envelope/pretty label route…and if they are, meh. 🙂
Post # 5
@prisigtr: This! I hand-addressed our Save-The-Date Cards, as well, but my handwriting is awful. I was going to have FI’s stepmom do it, but that’s a lot of work. We’re just going to print ours out, too. Personally, I think labels are ugly, but come on, it’s the envelope (says the girl who overthought fonts and stamps).
Post # 6
@LauraHF: i did labels for our stds and will print directly on the envelope for our invites. If someone gets offended about that then i don’t want them there anyways.
Post # 7
I’ve been struggling with this myself and posted about it. Someone showed me some really cute wrap-around labels that I’m considering purchasing them for my invites. I would be using regular stick on labels with a cute design but my envelopes are textured so the labels looked a little weird when I tried it out on a couple of envelopes. I think labels are perfectly fine! We don’t all have enough time to write out envelopes or enough money to have someone else do it for us! Or even if we do… I would rather focus that energy on other parts of my wedding!
Post # 8
I don’t think it matters one bit. I hand wrote my Save-The-Date Cards, and thought they looked horrible. A friend of mine is also getting married, and her clear printed labels were very pretty, and looked much better than my chicken scratches did.
My amazing graphic designer friend is doing my invites, and she designed some stellar address labels for me. I say go with what works for you. No one will really care that they’re on a label, or hand written, or whatever.
Post # 9
@LauraHF: I don’t think it would offensive, the last wedding invitation I got in the mail wasn’t hand-addressed. But if you still want to add some elegance I would get the labels with the printed calligraphy on them so you still get the look of elegance without the cost!
Post # 10
@LauraHF: This has been a huge debate I have had recently. It all depends on the amount of crap you are willing to listen to. Most women who I know who got married before 2005 had their mom’s do it– it was hand written, but not by them. In talking to my mom, my coworkers, and most people my age, printing the address on the invitation is fine. However, there will be people (FI and some of his family and friends) who will notice, care, and think it is lazy. In all honesty, I would hate to give off that impression and am handwriting all 100 addesses. And it matters so much to Fiance that he offered to hand write them (he’s a computer engineer, so the last time he handwrote anything was in the 1990s, so that’s not happening), so I’ll do it.
For you, how much does you mom’s feeling’s matter? Is it worth the headache? By practicing my handwriting during conference calls and boring meetings, it is so much better. And my meeting summaries look amazing 🙂
Post # 11
I printed the addresses on my envelopes in a calligraphy font. I loved it and no one complained or even noticed!
Post # 12
I had a hard time with this. I personally don’t care if I receive an invitation that’s printed vs handwritten.
I do know that to some people (especially people in our parents’ generation), handwritten envelopes are very important. I respect that, and I do want to follow the important “rules” when it comes to wedding etiquette.
In the end, we decided to print the addresses using a font that is similar to calligraphy. It would have been too time consuming or costly to have them handwritten. If someone close to me had pressed the issue hard enough, I probably would have paid for a calligrapher to do it. I guess it all comes down to knowing your audience. If you know it will please people who matter to you, I think it would be worth going the handwritten route.
Post # 13
I used clear labels to print the names and address labels both for the invitations, because I have ligament damage to my hand and I can only handwrite one or two addresses before my hand cramps up. I picked a very pretty font, and no one has complained… and using the clear labels means that it’s not even noticeable on my envelopes that they ARE labels.
Post # 14
I don’t like the look of labels, but as far as etiquette goes – I think they’re about the least offensive “faux pas”. The envelope is gonna get thrown away anyway.
Post # 15
@MrsBeck: My labels are wrap around and they’re awesome! I say go for it!
Post # 16
I printed mine….had no idea it was an etiquette faux-pas until after they went out in the mail. Oops!