(Closed) Invitation Ettiquette

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

What about Save-The-Date Cards that ask guests to check your wedding website, and explain it further on there?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send a STD asap so those who know for sure they want to attend can book their accommodation.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I actually sent a newsletter type deal after I sent the STD’s, but before I sent the invites that had all kinds of travel information, rental car, hotel block info, etc., that way people could get a head start on travel plans before the invites went out.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Typically I’d agree with @SeaSalt‘s suggestion to put it on the wedding website, but I don’t think it’s a good idea in your situation based on the fact that not all guests will bother or have access to it – I know barely any of ours looked at our site, and in your situation it’s crucial that your Out of Town guests get this information. Is it a destination wedding? How many people from your guest list live far away enough that you anticipate them wanting to book a hotel room? I guess I just don’t understand why it has to be so early…who has set the deadline of April 30th? Surely there is more than one hotel in the area, it just seems strange that they’re telling you that your guests can’t book rooms for August unless they do it by the end of April.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Wonderstruck:  

My guess would be since it’s a small town and they make the bulk of their money on tourism, they want to reserve the right to book and fill their rooms during prime vacation time while still trying to accommodate the bride who may want her guests to stay at that particular hotel. Sounds odd that they want 4 months notice, but if that’s the way they make their money, then I suppose I could get it. Maybe. LOL

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@toner2b:  Do a save the date that notes that room blocks are available until April 30.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Invitations should not go out until about 2 months before the wedding, so to deal with your booking issues, you shoudl send save-the-dates with a packet or insert about accommodations right away and put info on a website. Then you should also call your nearest and dearest and make sure they understand the hotel siutation.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I still don’t understand why you would need guests to book the rooms SO early – most people won’t commit to something like that 4 months in advance!

Also, if you have the room blocks reserved, what’s the issue?  I’m confused.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

To add something:

Look into reservation policies and see up until what point your guests can cancel with no penalty and let those who are unsure know that they may want to book by April 30 in case, but can cancel up until the Thursday before the wedding or what-have-you if they find they are unable to attend.

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