(Closed) invitation faux pas

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3266 posts
Sugar bee

@ticatica:  Since this is an etiqutte post I will say it.  You shouldn’t be mentioning gifts ever.  So I would personally re-print them all without that line on them.

If you have already given some out, I would contact those people and let them know there was a problem with them.

 

Post # 4
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I almost feel bad saying this because they have already gone out but I second PP… If you have a honeymoon registry, you could have that on a wedding website (along with accomodations, directions, etc, etc) and have a blurb at the bottom of the invite that says “for additional informaiton and accomodations please visit our wedding website…” I would not mention gifts on the invitation itself.

Have you sent these out to all guests? How many guests are we talking?… it’s kind of over and done with but it wouldn’t hurt to reach out to them…

Post # 5
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@andielovesj:  She says they were allll sent out. 

Honestly, there’s not much you can do, other than never trusting your aunt to handle etiquette ever again. 

Post # 8
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It doesn’t matter the size of the wedding, gift information does not belong on a wedding invitation.  So be glad she only put it on half!

Post # 10
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Just because it’s your opinion, doesn’t mean that it’s correct etiquette. This is an etiquette board, so your advice or comments should adhere to etiquette. According to etiquette, wedding invitations should be free of any reference to gifts.

To the OP, I don’t know what you can do. I hope your guests don’t notice or care.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That being said, you clearly have enough posts under your belt to know what is and isn’t a good idea in regards to wedding etiquette (over 1000).  We react to the invformation you give us, that is true for any discussion forum.

Let guests contact you about it.  If they received invites that were not supposed to have gift info but did, don’t pre-emptively apologize.  If they were supposed to receive gift information and did not, they will likely ask you about gifts, or your parents.

Post # 13
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In the UK it’s not proper etiquette either.  It’s becoming far more common to include information, but all sources I just double checked confirm that no information about gifts should be printed on the invitations.  Some people do and it’s becoming more typical, in the same way that it’s becoming more typical for brides to send out unpersonalized photo thank you notes.  Just because a lot of people are doing it now does not make it proper etiquette.  No one says you have to follow proper etiquette, but you really shouldn’t call the evening people and tell them, “Oh, you can bring me a gift!” or call the morning-only people and say, “Just in case you didn’t have it printed on your invitation, no gifts!”  Your best bet is to let it go and not mention it unless someone asks. 

Post # 14
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11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

not much you can do if they are already sent out.  hopefully your guests don’t notice or aren’t offended by it.

not sure why you would reference anything to do with gifts on your invites.???

 

Post # 16
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ticatica:  If you could figure out who received the evening invite with the note, I would consider apologizing to them in passing.  But I think that making calls to guests for the direct purpose of apologizing for the potential slight is just going to call more attention to it.  Plus, how exactly would you explain that it wasn’t intended on the evening invites, without also disclosing that those guests weren’t invited to the whole day?!?

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