Post # 1
We have several family members with kids who are divorced, and both parents are invited to the wedding. My question is, on which invite does the kids’ get listed? Is it the one with primary custody, or both?
FI’s Aunt and Uncle are divorced. Aunt is remarried. Uncle has primary custody of the kids, but kids spend Wednesdays and every other weekend with Aunt. In addition, they can stay with Aunt whenever they like, but Aunt pays child support to Uncle.
So do kids get listed on Uncles invite, or both Uncle’s and Aunt’s invite?
Post # 3
That one is tough… I would hate to offend anyone especially since kids are a touchy issue in most divorces. Maybe just adress them to the Aunt/Uncle and inclued “and family” on it. Just make sure they discuss who will be RSVPing for the kids or include a name line to list all the guests so they can the kids names. If they are sharing custody, hopefully they get along for the kids sake and will be able to work out hte RSVP stuff without too much trouble.
Post # 4
I would list them on the Uncle’s invite, since he has primary custody and they are there more of the time. Or you could be sure and put it on both!
Post # 5
I would put it on both, and leave it up to the parents to decide which one gets to take the kids.
Post # 6
Thanks for your help. I was going to put it on Uncle’s, but then I decided that the last thing I would need would be for Aunt to get insulted (which would never have been my intent) and make a scene or be upset with me or get upset with Uncle. She isn’t normally that type of person, but like pp said, kids are touchy subject. I’ll just put them on both and make sure not to double-count them. Thanks!