Post # 1
So we have decided to have a cabin wedding instead of elope on May 19 (I know we are the ultimate procrastinators). Basically We found a 5 bedroom cabin that actually has a reception hall and a honeymoon cabin on property. so the idea is older family members are invited to come stay in the large cabin with me and the groom and his group will be seperate in the other cabin. It is very important to me that my Great Grandmother come as she is increasingly becoming more ill. However, if there is liquor it would upset her greatly. His family is a group of big drinkers and know they will bring alcohol. How can I word it in my invitation that we would rather not have that happen. I tried to tell them before that I did not think it was a great idea but they think I am a stickler.
Post # 3
i don’t know how to put it on the invitation tactfully.
your fiance needs to put his foot down and tell them it will be a dry weekend and he wont have them drinking or inebriated in front everyone else.
or can/would you limit them to only drinking in the other cabin? it doesn’t sound like you’ve got a large group, so i would keep it off the invitiation and tell them over the phone or however that they are welcome to enjoy themselves with alcohol at the other cabin, but alcohol or any major signs of inebriation would really upset your g. grandmother, so they need to keep it away from the other cabin.
also, it kind of sounds like it wouldn’t just upset her, but it would upset you. remember that as long as they are of age and keep control of themselves that it is a perfectly legal and acceptable activity. i’d say try not to let it bother you and have some of your other family help shield your g. grandmother if necessary.
if for some reason she did see them drinking and got upset, then you’d need to remind her that what they’re doing isn’t wrong, they’re just having fun, everything is okay, and there is no reason to be upset.
really if i were in your shoes, i would just say “hey guys, please keep alcohol in the guest cabin. i don’t care if you drink, but pleae don’t be more than buzzed when at the main cabin.”
Post # 4
@macshap: That is a great idea. The drinking doesn’t neccessarily bother me i just know I’ve seen their self control levels at other times like children’s birthday parties. lol. I would hate for them to break something in the cabin or something along those lines. But the smaller cabin is a great idea, since we will be close to a moonshine distillery ( a legal one) it may be inevitable. Thank You 🙂