(Closed) Invitation help please

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Registry information on the invite is always a no-no and will invite endless tut-tutting at you. Only truly polite way is word of mouth. Let your close family members know and they can spread it around. 

As to when to send the invites – 3-4 months a little too far out. But if you have a lot of people traveling, things can be more flexible. 6-8 weeks is standard just so people don’t forget its coming up. 

Post # 3
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9443 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Don’t send registry info with your invites, it’s tacky. It’s pretty easy to find people’s registry and any guests that can’t will ask.

Send out invites at 8 weeks if you are worried about needing to give people more time but don’t send your invites out super early. Most people knew our date before our invites went out anyway.

Post # 4
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30388 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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calgal :  It is not polite to include registry information with a wedding information because the message is “we expect gifts and here is where you can buy them”.

If someone hosts a shower for you, registry information can be included because showers are all about gifts. Otherwise, you depend on word of mouth.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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calgal :  If you are inviting people who have to travel a considerable distance, is there a reason you have chosen not to do STD’s?

If you don’t want to do STD’s, and are 100% sure you are going to invite certain guests, you can always give them a heads up by email or include a message in your Christmas cards, if you send them.

Post # 7
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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calgal :  My Maid/Matron of Honor and mom planned a bridal shower for me and included info. about my registry with the invitation. Definitely don’t send it with your wedding invite. If you’re not having a shower, people will find out by word of mouth.

Post # 9
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1449 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

1. PP have it covered, don’t include Registey information. Those who care will ask. 

2. 6-8 weeks is standard to send them out. Howver, I agree with you that I’d like to have more of a heads up in order to plan so I sent mine out 10 weeks in advance. Your RSVP by date should still be 2-3 weeks before the wedding though. 

3. If you are worried about some people travelling (and they are for sure invited), an email or phone call with the event information can work perfectly well. You don’t have to send actual STDs in order to get people the important information. 

Post # 10
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2979 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m doing STDs only for a few guests. I’d recommend the same for you – just send it to anyone who is travelling. Check out Vista print! They always have some sort of sale on – a few STDs and postage would literally be $20. Since your STDs dont need to be sent out right now, wait till the strike threat is over. We dont know IF it will even happen, but it likely wouldn’t be until xmas or anything anyways. You can also just send them an email or a phone call to make sure they still ‘save the date’ and that invites will go out closer to the date.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Have you considered PaperlessPost for save the dates? Kind of the best of both worlds.

It’s MUCH too informal for invites but is a little fancier than an email or text. They have free designs and would be a great way to avoid a potential strike.

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