(Closed) invitation issues.. HELP, please-they go out THIS WEEK!

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m confused, you are inviting some people to the ceremony but not everyone gets to go to the reception?

Post # 4
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

How many people are you inviting to the ceremony only? I would go out and buy some Michaels invites and DIY some ceremony only invites super quickly.

Post # 5
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


Yes, everyone who gets that will assume they are invited to both.  Even without a response card in the envelope. 

I think the only thing you can do is send them out and make some phone calls.  Yes, include a note, but also call them.  This could be a pretty sticky situation depending on your guests and how common it is in your circles to only be invited to the ceremony and not the reception.

As for what the note should say, I guess something along the lines of how sorry you are for the confusion on your invite, but that the reception is for close family only but that you hope they’ll attend to see you become husband and wife at the ceremony.

Sorry I’m not of more help… though I’ve been a wedding coordinator for years I’ve never worked with a couple who didn’t have the ceremony/reception with the same guest list.

Good luck and ask your mom for help, too!

Post # 6
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

uh oh!  If you put the reception info on the invite, then you ARE inviting all of these guests to both the ceremony and reception.  I think the only option, even though it’s a pain in the behind, is to redo your invites.  If you include a note, saying by the way, you’re actually NOT invited to the reception, even though I printed the info on the invite is pretty rude, in my opinion.  Because of this, I think the only way to not offend your guests is to reprint them, and obviously omit the reception info.  Sorry this happened to you, it totally sucks.:(

ETA:  You’d only have to redo invites for those guests who you planned to invite to the ceremony only, and you could keep the invites for those who are invited to both.

Post # 7
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it would be awkward and in poor taste to send someone a printed invitation that mentions the reception, then a separate enclosure that in effect says”By the way, you are not invited to the reception”.

Post # 8
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would be pretty offended if I got an invitation with the reception info on it, but then there was a note that I wasn’t in fact invited to the reception. Some people get to go, but I am not one of them? like a PP said, I would go to Michaels and make some new invites ASAP

Post # 9
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@simplifiedbride: My thoughts exactly. 

If I received an invitation with a note rescinding the invitation, I would feel offended. But you don’t really have a choice since they go out this week.

I would print out ceremony-only invites as well. 🙁

Post # 10
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Reposting what @Jules1949 wrote for emphasis

julies1949 (message)      

I think it would be awkward and in poor taste to send someone a printed invitation that mentions the reception, then a separate enclosure that in effect says”By the way, you are not invited to the reception”.

I just don’t see how it can be done without hurting some feelings.

“Oh, uh, well, I’m telling you about this party we’re having, inviting you with the invitation and now I’m uninviting you with this note”

I would be hurt

Post # 11
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yikes, I think you definitely need to print out different invitations without any reception information on them for the guests who aren’t invited to the reception.

I’m 100% not trying to start anything here, I’m just curious – I’ve never heard of a wedding without a reception. Is this common?

Post # 12
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

How many more people are you inviting to the wedding that you are NOT inviting to the reception?


This wasn’t an option, but can you just include them in the reception, too?

Post # 13
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You definitely need new invitations for those who are not included in the reception. There is no advisable way to send a note telling them to disregard the reception information because they are not included. 

You aren’t having anything following the ceremony for all guests? I’ve heard of a little shindig at ceremony sites, then a private reception later for close family, but never a wedding with nothing for all guests. 

Post # 14
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with the other posters, I don’t think you can send out invites with reception info to people who aren’t invited to the reception. Including a note saying they aren’t invited to the reception that’s clearly listed on the invite would definitely offend people.

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