(Closed) Invitation list with prior RSVP?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
541 posts
Busy bee

Yes, but especially yes for family and close friends. If your parents neighbor down the street declined previously, and you don’t know them too well, then it’s fine to leave them off the final invitation list.

Post # 4
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

From a Wedding Stationery point of view, Save the Dates are a relatively NEW phenomena… and technically NO ONE is ever officially invited until they actually receive the Printed Invitation.  A Save The Date… is truly just a Heads-Up Notice… and not an Invitation.

Some would say, that you could indeed “skip” those that have given you a NO by word of mouth… but I wouldn’t. 

You never know maybe someone’s plans have fallen thru etc.  Besides, sending out the Official Invites to them is an act of being “inclusive”… as obviously these are people you want to share the good news / joy with anyhow.  Even if they still cannot come, they at least will know that you did indeed Invite them and wanted them to be there to share your BIG DAY.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


Post # 6
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would. This is what happens when you book your wedding on a holiday weekend. I know so many people who have standing plans for Memorial Day and Labor Day weekends.

Post # 7
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would still send them.

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just judge it by the individual, maybe you could include a note for those that you want to sent formal invites to saying you know they aren’t busy but wanted to include them still etc. 

Post # 9
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

yes include them. THeir plans may have changed. And even if they didn’t a lot of people will still send you a gift.

Post # 10
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Cort1021:  most definatly.

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