Post # 1
We sent out our save-the-dates a few months ago and a few people responded very kindly saying they were happy for us but had prior commitments on that date. Some people responded directly to us and some I heard word-of-mouth through my parents.
My question is now that I’m about to send out the formal invitations, do I include them on the list?
Post # 3
Yes, but especially yes for family and close friends. If your parents neighbor down the street declined previously, and you don’t know them too well, then it’s fine to leave them off the final invitation list.
Post # 4
From a Wedding Stationery point of view, Save the Dates are a relatively NEW phenomena… and technically NO ONE is ever officially invited until they actually receive the Printed Invitation. A Save The Date… is truly just a Heads-Up Notice… and not an Invitation.
Some would say, that you could indeed “skip” those that have given you a NO by word of mouth… but I wouldn’t.
You never know maybe someone’s plans have fallen thru etc. Besides, sending out the Official Invites to them is an act of being “inclusive”… as obviously these are people you want to share the good news / joy with anyhow. Even if they still cannot come, they at least will know that you did indeed Invite them and wanted them to be there to share your BIG DAY.
Hope this helps,
Post # 6
I would. This is what happens when you book your wedding on a holiday weekend. I know so many people who have standing plans for Memorial Day and Labor Day weekends.
Post # 8
Just judge it by the individual, maybe you could include a note for those that you want to sent formal invites to saying you know they aren’t busy but wanted to include them still etc.
Post # 9
yes include them. THeir plans may have changed. And even if they didn’t a lot of people will still send you a gift.
Post # 10
@Cort1021: most definatly.