(Closed) Invitation mailing and RSVP date

posted 6 years ago in May 2013
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Mine is May 25th. I’m trying to work an A and B list so I’m sending the A list invites a little earlier.

A list invites go out Feb 25, due back March 25

B list invites go out sometime between March 25 – 31 (depending on how many ‘No’s’ we get) and are due back April 25 which is one month before the wedding.

Check with your venue/caterer on when they need a final headcount by.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the rule is 8 weeks prior without a STD, 6 weeks prior with a STD.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aoneil225:  I’m getting married May 12. We are asking for reply by April 20 so that we can have time to call and check up on those who didn’t RSVP. We just picked a date that sounded good to us.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aoneil225:  I plan to send mine out around March 1st, with RSVP’s due back April 9.  I padded the timelines a bit (sending out 9 weeks before and factoring in an earlier RSVP date to account for the head count for the venue).  Wedding is May 3.  Hope that helps! 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am getting married May 26 and I sent out my invites last week with a RSVP of April 2. I wanted a little more lead time so I can adjust my qty according to the responses. My wedding is out of town so I wanted my guests to have time to book their flight and hotel.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Same here, my wedding date is May 13th and everyone is coming from out of town so i’m sending out my this week and asking for RSVP by March 30th to allow for decline or no respone. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m waiting for mine from the printer! As soon as I address them, they are going out with a return date of April 15 (Wedding May 18)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think 6-8 weeks is traditionally when they should be sent out. As for the RSVP date, people should have about a month to respond and from there it all depends on how far in advance you need to let the caterers know your count. We have to tell the club our count 7 days before the event, and I know I want a week to ten days to track down the people who haven’t responded.

For example:

Our wedding is August 23

Final count due August 16

A week for finding missing responses means an RSVP of August 9

Sending invites out 4 weeks before August 9 is July 12, which is 6 weeks before the wedding. I will probably aim to send them out around June 30- July 1 (since I know that will end up pushed back a few days).

The important thing is to figure out your calendar, making sure to allow for enough time to give the final count, find the missing rsvps and give guests about 4 weeks to respond.

Hope that helps!

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Invitations sent tonight (likely receive locally March 9) -about 5wks before rsvp, 10wks before wedding

RSVP April 12

Wedding May 18

 

After arguing with the older sister/moh, we decided on this because a)April is a very busy month (not even factoring in pre-wedding stuff– she said the rsvp date was WAY too soon). b)I’d personally rather have an invitation earlier rather than later..and with 250 guests, we may have some calls to make for non rsvp-ers

 

The only negative I can see is people who we wrote “and guest” for.. who may or may not know if they will have a guest.. but we can always check back with them.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We sent ours out March 8th with an April 11th RSVP date.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I sent mine out this morning!  RSVP date is May 3 and wedding date is May 31.

I’m so excited!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We sent ours on Saturday, with an RSVP date of April 25th, becasue the hotels we blocked rooms at required bookings by that date, and it gives us two weeks between final count is due and rsvp is due, to track anyone down.

I know it’s a bit early, but everyone has been asking where they are! So, it’s a burden off my shoulders to release them anyway!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our RSVP-by date is April 26th. The current plan is to mail international in a week and domestic in 2 weeks.

I used Google to try to figure out a good middle ground for when to mail and when to RSVP-by. Since a lot of what I read said 6-8 weeks from the wedding, we planned on 6-7 due to time restraints on our part, and because I read that 6 weeks was okay if you had mailed save-the-date cards. I also read that traditionally the RSVP date is 3 weeks from postmark – which is all so hard to think of when you order them! We picked dates that seemed to make sense, gave us time to call people who hadn’t sent their RSVP cards back, and gave us time to mail them out!

I hope that makes sense!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

We did it all wrong. But that’s because we knew our city was going to be PACKED and all the hotels full for our date (May 18; University of Texas graduation day).

We sent them out Feb. 2 with a March 15 RSVP date (that’s Friday!), and we’ve heard from 45/60 people so far. We won’t be so upset if we don’t hear from people, but it’d sure be nice. I figure 6 of 15 no-response people will show; we’ve got 34 “yes” responses so far.

Those who are coming are grateful that we gave them such a good lead time to find hotels, as they’ve all been able to do so, but it’s taken a lot of calling around. If we sent out invites this week, they’d all be screwed.

 

Plus, now we can add a few folks from around here if we want to pad the list — we have catering for 50 set up.

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